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You have ALL of us!!! Seriously...we may not be able to come into your kitchen and talk to you daily BUT we are here to console and help eachother...we are in this bullshit TOGETHER!!! *BIG HUGS*

I'm tired of it. My bf is treating me so terrible today. The one day I leave the house and he has to clean its the end of the world. He has no idea what I do to bust my ass to cook, clean and take care of him and his kids on a daily basis

Agreed!!! We try to understand, there is no way I could talk to my DH about half the Bullcrap his daughter pulls

THANK YOU!!!! I wish I could talk to him about his spoiled brat daughter but I can't because that's his freaking baby, it's disgusting!!! It literally makes me sick the way he looks at her, like he's in love with a 3 year old.

There are many many disgusting things about being a step. Lucky for you, this is a BF, not husband. Any permanent plans with him?

Yes. I love his son, is son has no mother. I am his motherly figure. But his daughter I have a hard time feeling the same for. He treats them completely different. It's hard for me to feel the same for her because of how spiked and babies she is.

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He stares at her all day, it freaks me out. I almost feel like he forgets his son is even there! Idk. I sometimes dread her coming over. We never fight until she's there either

That would freak me out too. Does his daughter have a mom? How often does she come over? Many of us know the old routine of never fighting until the skids are there. I have my SD full time and it sucks ass.

We have his son full time I love him to death. We have her 50/50 and I dreaddddd it every time. She has a mother. Who is super high maintenance and is a huge part of her little attitude when she comes over. But it's just odd. Well be sitting for dinner and I'll catch him starring. I'll be like what are you doing creepy. He's like observing. I'll say... Your being a creeper stop starring.

My Dh is like that about Sd9. Always just staring at her. And she old enough to notice and thinks she the most gorgeous girl ever because of it. I just don't get it. I love my kids to death but I don't just stare at them like that.

Ewww, that's just odd of him to do! Trust me, if he's like this now, it'll just get worse and if spoiled little precious baby girl acts like this now, it's only gonna get worse! She'll turn into his mini wife and you'll be cast aside to watch them carry on as if they're a couple. It's disgusting and if my DH didn't put a stop to his daughter's behavior with him inappropriately at age 12 - there's no way I'd have married him!

Omg nooooo there's no way I could deal with that 3 more years from now. He better put an end to it. I tell him all the time that he needs to Mack off and let her have independence or it will be trouble for the both of us.

Me too!

Tessa, we do all feel your aggravation and pain. It's a hard road to be on. First what he does is freaky and can't you just tell him that he's not giving the same attention to both kids? when i first told my DH that he was giving way too much attention to his 7yr old than the other kids, he was extremely defensive. but then we talked it out and he says he feels guilty. Just yesterday...again, we talked about the guilt. It's like you have to constantly keep them conscious of their actions. It works...i'm not bitching at him, well at least not all of the time, lol.but we are talking about it and how he needs to let go of that guilt...she don't care, trust me. It's all in his head because that's what happens to parents who care, they feel guilty they are not there all of the time. But you know what, at the end of the day, the kids end up just fine.