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Submitted by KarmaQueen on Sun, 06/15/2008 - 4:24pm.

I visit this website because it gives me a chance to vent the frustration and resentment that builds up while I give everything I have emotionally and financially to my DH and the skids, often without acknowledgement and always with accompanying abuse from the BM's.

I vent HERE because if I didn't, the danger is I would blow my top DH and that would be damaging to our relationship. The fact that I CAN vent honestly means the pressure is released a little allowing me to put a smile on my face and welcome the skids into my home again and again without taking my stress out on them (because we are ALL human).

No one here (to the best of my knowledge) takes my comments literally (although if there really was a black hole that BM's could be dropped in never to be seen or heard from again, I would vote for that Eye-wink ).

I vent. I calm down. I have a giggle at the posts you have left me. I feel good that I am not the only flawed human being. I take strength from the other amazing, strong, funny, caring women here. I read the posts and take on board the advice from those who have 'been there, done that, got the t-shirt' and then feeling a little bit stronger, I go out and try again to do my best to help my DH maintain a good relationship with his children.

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ABSOLUTELY TRUE

Submitted by Angel on Sun, 06/15/2008 - 4:57pm.

Venting here helps. Reading the vents that other people have also helps.

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I can relate!

Submitted by Oh Canada on Sun, 06/15/2008 - 8:31pm.

The postings and advice I have found on this site have really helped me in my times of need / confusion / frustration. The best part of this site is that it give us all the sense that we are not crazy and we are not alone out there.

I can't tell you how many times I have got online to this site and found a thread of conversation that has touched my soul and really made me feel better about my situation. Bottom line: there is hope!

Smiling

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Venting

Submitted by Cruella on Sun, 06/15/2008 - 9:24pm.

Venting on this site has gotten me through many of hard times. I found this site by accident about 2 years ago when DH and I were going through a rough patch of court dealings with BM. BM actually emailed CPS with a ton of false accusations. This woman abandons the children moves around the world and then accuses DH of things that were simply not true. I had so much anger that if my mind were a rubber band than SNAP I would have snapped BM.

My skids were a mess with abandonment issues and my marriage to my husband was crumbling apart. I still have many issues with them but I am muddling through. Things are better for now but it was the strength of the people on here that helped me keep my sanity.

"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"

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Vent away!

Submitted by StepLightly on Sun, 06/15/2008 - 10:32pm.

Vent on...I'm so happy I found this site!

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I've been here for 1 1/2 years

Submitted by Anne8102 on Mon, 06/16/2008 - 8:13am.

I came mainly to find out what advice other people had to give about certain problems I was having with my husband and the skids. I've done a lot of venting, too, but mostly I wanted to find solutions for problems. When I couldn't come up with any brilliant ideas, I started looking for ideas from others in similar situations. It's been a big help. I have stayed here because of the community. Even when my problems are now not so large and overwhelming, I still enjoy being a part of this group. I enjoy the camraderie, the trading of ideas, the debates and learning from others. And I have always said that dumping it here means we're not dumping it on our families and that can only be a good thing!

♥ Anne 8102, D/B/A Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

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