Step Talk

My DH begged me to delete all of mine when he thought BB and his mother found them, and I did. I so wish I didn't because it would've been a very valuable account of the things that happened in our house while his son were in our custody. DH never kept any written records of events so when I mention things about his son or what BB and his parents had done, he can't remember and I have no proof to back it up since DH is always in denial.

I KNOW My Old Lady reads My Posts, sometimes it makes it easier, for Her to Read it Here, and see that a lot of You Girls Agree with Me, even if You only hear abuot "Situations" from My Viewpoint. A lot of times, it makes it a little easier on Me, to post and know She'll read it, because it's in a relatively neutral forum, instead of face to face...

Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

There is nothing I have said here that I haven't talked about with H, even if he doesn't agree with me ,trust me he'd rather have me get the feelings out then to make him miserable cause i do not bottle well anymore- BM syndrome- the filter broke.

There is no reason where logic does not exist

I think that she is scared of how hard it may be to be a single mom again. The struggle and everything being on one person's shoulders. What helped me get out of my marriage with the ex was my sister-in-law letting me and my kids stay with her. I remember that everytime the ex was nice it gave me hope and I would doubt "forget" the bad times. It may help her remember to have these blogs and to have us as witnesses.

It was realising that keeping my children in that household could affect the way they treated me when they get older and the way their relationships are and how they let others treat them that kept pushing me forward.

Small steps but always forward.

since it's technically not hers....?? i've been asked by her not to post or even read her blogs...

I agree with SerendipitySM - she needs a journal and a counselor!

Sorry, but I believe what goes around comes around. Life is funny that way.

She was the one that broke up her BOYFRIEND'S (not husband... he is still married) marriage and SHE gets upset at the WIFE and her BF for wanting to get back together?!?!?!

For Chava to keep a journal would be like writing everything on a billboard for those nutty people to find. She can't even have her own closet or her own bathroom without someone intruding, where is she going to keep a journal?

I do agree that she needs a counselor. Sometimes people get so involved in a situation that they become overwhelmed & they can't pull themselves out of it. Yeah, sometimes I get frustrated, but I keep in mind that I've been caught in my own situation & didn't do what was best so I have no right to judge her. The best we can do is support her & encourage her to do the right thing. Telling her she deserves what she's getting is only making it worse.

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