Well the sh*t is about to hit the fan with the SD19 and I. Last Thursday night I came home from work after a 14 hr day.( I work 2 jobs) and as I walk into the house I hear her say "I need a flag". So stupid me I ask "What do you need a flag for?" Then comes the bitchy voice telling me " I wasn't talking to YOU!", ok so I say "excuse me" and with the same attitude I get back "you're excused" Ok I know I asked for it didn't I? )*(&#$)(*
I put my stuff down, went up to our bedroom, closed the door and waited until she left the house.
I then went back and told me DH that's it I've had enough. There was no need for that and I'm not taking anymore. That is the kind of response I get from her anytime I talk to her. The only time I get a civil response out of her is when she wants something and I've had enough. I warned him the next time I get that attitude from her my temper is going to blow and she's going to end up crying. Will wonders never cease my DH actually said "Maybe that's what she needs a good attitude adjustment" Finally the man is getting smart. I don't think he realizes how bad it is really going to be though.
I know that she's going to start mouthing off when I do tell her she needs to respect the people that provide a roof over her head, a bed for her to sleep in and food to stuff her face with. I figure I'll tell her to park the attitude at the door. I'm going to end up with the "and how are you going to make me" line. She's actually said that one to DH before and I could have smacked her. I'm just going to tell her "well you can pack your crap, call your mother or father (yes neither one of us are her bioparents) and go live with them for a change. God knows neither one of them have had any responsibility where you are concerned in the last 4 years. I'll even drive you to the airport so you can get your butt on a plane to go live with them."
I know this one will blow within the next week so part 2 should be coming soon!!
She isnt even your dh's
She isnt even your dh's child??? Good lord, I would have lost it a long time ago then.
shed have been a gonner
a long time ago no way would i have put up with that crap my Bf suggested that he wanted to get into contact with the kid he helped rasise until she was four she would now be 7 i said no way !!!!!!
life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )
Show her the Door
There's ALWAYS juvi!
Have a plan first
I agree that your SD19 should be kicked to the curb. From experience (three different adult skids) it really helps to be in agreement with your DH before the sparks fly.
You don't want to tell her to get out only to have your DH cave in and invalidate you. You know she'll go whine and cry to DH as soon as it gets bad. All 3 of my DHs kids threw adult tantrums when they were told to immediately leave--anything to gain control of the situation and get what they wanted.
Also, you should be ready to get the police involved when she barricades herself in her room and refuses to leave. Unless she pays you rent, you MUST INSIST that the cops take her away.
This lesson may be the biggest favor you and DH give SD19--the chance to grow up!
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