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BM...."I DON'T HAVE MY WEEKENDS...NO FAIR"....SERIOUSLY??

sad2012's picture

My DH works shift work....one week 7am-3pm, then day off, then 3pm-11pm and two days off, then 11pm-7am and two days off, and then it starts all over again, wich include working weekends. The normal weekends (fri & sat or sat & sun) come around every four months, then he only has 6 weekends where he has off, then it starts all over again working weekends...He has had the same job for five years and the BM knows what his shift work is all about.....
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When he has the weekends off, we alternate them and when he is working the weekends, we have them one weekend a month alternating the 7am-3pm shift or 11pm-7am shift...She is CONSTANTLY whining "I want my weekends"....My DH has the kids 12 days a month and mostly during the week, due to him having off these days...BM "works from home" and can freely leave her house to grocery shop, lunch with friends, do laundry, clean the house, etc...she works a PT job on Sundays where she is paid under the table, so the courts do not know about that little income...she works that job by her own choice.

Me, the other hand work a FT job leaving the house dropping kids off to school and going to work for 8-10 hrs a day..stopping at the grocery store, coming home cooking, homework, carpool, etc and then have to wash, clean, etc on the weekends. With my DH work and kids schedule we have to pencil in time alone together.

And she says "its not fair"....she has 12 days and nights to do as she pleases!! When her kids are here she has no one else to answer to..it is just her and her low life BF (his kids lives in CA..how convenient). We have three other kids at our house and crazy schedules..we do not have time to work around hers..which her schedule does not compare to ours!! I told my DH the other night "I am jealous of her schedule"!!

She is a piece of work!!! She puts all kinds of ideas in the skids heads...like "Daddy does not want to spend time with you on the weekends..he rather be with his wife"...OMG!!

sad2012's picture

I have three kids 23, 21, 16 from two different marriages and I know all about visitation schedules with "Daddy". With my first marriage my older two went with their dad every other weekend and would spend 4-7:30 two nights a week together..of course as they got older, they did not go as much and eventually not at all...I did not complain...I wanted to have my kids with me all the time! With my 16yr old, he went with his dad from Sat night til Monday afternoon or AM when he was in school. (Due to his Dad's schedule 3-11 M-F every week, this worked for him. When he got to be about 12/13 the weekends stopped and I had all three kids home..not a problem for me...I was single at the time. If I wanted to go out, I would have someone babysit the youngest or he would go to a friends house to spend the night.

All the BM wants to do is PARTY!! She can not handle her own kids...that household is filled with yelling and screaming amongst everyone...I ride by the house when kids are at BM and I never see the BF truck, but when the kids are with us, he is there...I am sure he can not even stand it!

She expects me or DH aunt to watch the kids on the weekends while DH is working so she can be free of them....again...PATHETIC!!

WTHDISUF's picture

These dang women really are pieces of work, aren't they? At least every other Month BM tells DH "She needs a break". Uhm, from what?? YOUR OWN 1 KID that you NEVER have anyway?? IF she has him 4 days in a row, which is rare, she'll claim to need a break!

sad2012's picture

When they were together (lived together for 14yrs..never married) she had all the freedom she wanted...if he was at work, she would call the aunt and say "you need to come over I can not take these kids anymore!"...and would not come home til 3-4 in the morning and then try and start a fight with him...she was out as much as she could...now that they have been not together for 2 1/2 yrs, she can not stand it she does not have that freedom anymore...BM needs to get a grip on her own kids!