Step Talk

Hang in there and stay strong!! We are here for you....

Just think of how much less stress you will have!!!
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Soon to be Fearless the Free!

You'll feel relieved once its done. Then you can start to heal, and eventually meet someone new!!!

Good luck!

I'm happy for you- like I told you, you're young and don't have kids of your own yet, so you can move on, take care of yourself, set yourself up nicely in your life.
You have a chance and you heard a lot from us who feel so tied down.

Be smart, work hard for yourself, try to be debt free and take care of your health. When you get ready to date again, pick someone who puts you first!

I am new here so let me give a little history.
I have five children of my own ages 17,15, 13, 11, and 8. Recently married(for the second time in my life) in March after dating almost 3yrs and being engaged just over 2yrs. I am a Christian and I know I am not perfect but am working on that. His kid is 17 yrs old and I HATE her. She manipulates him, lies to him, and is treated with higher regard than me his own wife. She has all his trust no matter what she does while I have to constantly be questioned about every little thing. She is an Agnostic who feeds on christian kindness. She isn't even his biological child. She is his half sister's daughter. She was taken away from her mom when she was 4yrs old I think and his mom kept her for 2yrs then he took her and got legal guardianship of her when he tried to adopt her the Bio Dad's parents tried to get her(DH says they only wanted her for welfare benefits). I understand that she has basically had him all to herself for 6yrs. He dated and was actually in a relationship with someone when he got her but the gf moved out soon after he got the kid. My gosh she acts like she loves him romantically. If he sends her a text she gets all ga ga over it. She has a picture of him in his underwear in her photo album. She has told my 15yr old daughter that she used to have a crush on him when she was like 8yrs old and so did all her friends. When she was developing she would always walk around his house in just a towel. She has walked up to him in just her bra. When she was sick he would have her make out a list of things she wanted from the store and he would get it for her. Well hello you have a wife now. Her allergies were acting up this past weekend and she was making it sound worse than it was. So he calls her since we are going to run errands anyways and asks how she is doing and does she need him to run her some medicine over to her job for her. Of course she needs something so he proceeds to tell her that if she needs to get off work because she is so sick she should take a couple of days off. When i was sick just two weeks ago all he told me was can't you work at least half a day go in and work the morning do you really need to take of work for this. when I said this to him on not so many words his reason was that I have people that depend on me. Two months ago he let her stay home from school because the boyfriend of a friends friend committed suicide. She found out about it at work and "cried herself sick". "Poor thing" upset her stomach and gave herself a headache she was so upset. I don't know maybe he thinks she is such a sensitive soul. I have been reading this site for a while now and from what I can tell he is guilt parenting her. Before I even heard of the term I had realized that I was guilt parenting my kids. We moved out here in the middle of the school yr. I had not been able to afford the little extras for my kids. The ex has not paid one cent of cs and has not been in contact for almost 3yrs now. My mother passed away two yrs ago. And having to be exposed to the step demon. I felt like I had to compensate for my kids. I need to vent. The evil step daughter is ruining my marriage and I don't think I can stand it anymore.

I think a big reason for me to put up with this crap is that i'm 48 yrs old; maybe i'm TOO OLD for this crap? (BF wins guilty parent of the year award)

Stay strong and kick him OUT! Find someone with NO kids; you can do it!!!

You can borrow mine!

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

GREAT INFORMATION. THANKS YOU GUYS FOR POSTING. MY NEW ADULT SS AND SDL MADE A SURPRISE VISIT LAST WEEKEND. I AM STILL ANGRY THAT THEY DID NOT MAKE THEIR CHILDREN BEHAVE PROPERLY AND BASCIALLY LET THEM TRASH MY HOME. PLUS THEY DID NOT CONSIDER OUR PRIVACY AND PLANS FOR THE WEEKEND. THIS IS ONLY THEIR SECOND VISIT, AND I HAVE HAD ENOUGH. THE SDL IS OVER 350 POUNDS AND BROKE ONE OF MY CHAIRS, SHE DID NOT MENTION IT. MY SPOUSE MENTIONED IT TO ME IN FRONT OF HER, BUT SHE STILL ACTED AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED. THEN SHE DECIDED TO TAKE A NAPE ON MY ANTIQUE SOFA, IT WAS NOT IN THE DEN AT THE TIME OR I WOULD HAVE INVITED HER TO SIT ON THE LOVESEAT WHICH WAS STRONGER, AND REPLACABLE, NOT LIKE MY ANTIQUE, THAT I INVESTED IN AND DO NOT WANT DESTROYED. I DO NOT WANT TO BE RUDE, BUT I HAVE WORK VERY HARD TO HAVE NICE THINGS. THIS SDL IS NOT NICE AT ALL, SHE IS MANIPULATIVE AND WEARS VERY LOW CUT TOPS. AND BENDS OVER IN FRONT OF MY SPOUSE ALL THE TIME. SHE HAS SOME SERIOUS ISSUES, SHE CALLED AND LEFT SOME MSG FOR MY SPOUSE ABOUT THEM MEEING OUT OF TOWN, HE LET ME LISTEN TO IT, AND FINALLY SAID SHE IS CONFUSED AND SEEMS TO BE MAKING A PASS AT MY SPOUSE. SHE IS MARRIED TO MY SS AND MAKING PASSES AT HER FATHER-IN-LAW. MY GOD, HOW SICK IS THAT. HELP!!

Adult SS does not want to work. He has lived with various family member for the last 6 years and has not worked just taking advantage of them. I have been with his bF for 5 years and we have given him money, cloths, shoes, and tried to help him the whole time plus send resources to the household he was living in at the time. Now ss is 24 married, and still not working. I think he is lazy and thinks his father owes him something. Father(no DNA proof) was not allowed to be a part of his life, they lived over 20000 miles apart, now he is grown, and wants his father to take care of him. This whole situation makes me sick, I have mentioned this to my spouse, and we have agreed to let him go, and be totally on his own. SDL works and makes over 32 gran a year, that is enough to live on, if she manages properly.