Step Talk

Hi, did anything in particular happen to trigger this from her? Hopefully your husband is letting her know she does not make decisions for him in his marriage.

She sounds like a pain and maybe if she stays away you can all be happy anyway! but I know it is hurtful to be accused of something that is not true and not appreciated for all you have done Does anyone know what her problem is?

"In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus

Was there an incident or something that started this whole thing? Anything you can trace it back to? Is the 19yo the instigator or are they all mad at you individually?

I say concentrate on your younger kids and blow off the others for now. If they have a valid issue and want to work with you to resolve it in a responsible, adult manner, then great. Otherwise, just ignore it and them.

Also, I think DH should drag them to a little come-to-prayer meeting and let them know that they can either (a) discuss the issue with the two of you like the adults they are or (b) blow it out their collective ass.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

I can relate to your situation. You and your husband sound like you are showing her that no person will come between the two of you. That is the healthy right way to handle this. She needs to see she has no power and should be ashamed for trying to get the others on board with anything that may attack your character. Someday she will understand when she commits herself to someone in marriage. My adult stepdaughter tried everything to break up my husband and I. We no longer have her in our lives....and have also lost contact with her brother because he cant think for himself. I know how frustrating it can be since even being kind can come back to bite you. Hugs to you.

There is only room for two people in a marriage.

Thanks for the insight. The 19-year-old is the instigator. The only thing that's changed is child support for their mom stopped (she mentioned that to DH). My DH's mother died and he thinks that's what has them all going (them thinking there is a bunch of money?!). It's all very strange. Sick and strange....

Ah yes the money. Sad.