So this weekend I take bs-3months with me and go do the grocery shopping and school supply shopping. Dh, the skids and bs3 stay home. I get back about two hours later after fighting the back-to-school rush with an infant strapped to my chest.
Dh and the skids haven't moved from in front of the tv where I left them two hours ago. No one aknowledges my presence when I walk in the house. I put the babys car seat in front of Dh and ask him to get him out. Bs3 comes running up the hallway to me and says "Mommy I have a suprise for you!" All excited.
He takes me by the hand to the bathroom. "I cleaned the bathroom for you!"
He literally cleaned the entire bathroom for me as a suprise. While Dh and the older kids sat on their asses all afternoon.
So I told him that I had a suprise for him too, and I went to the car and gave him a pack of crayons and an activity book that I had gotten him. He thanked me repeatedly.
I make 5 trips in and out of the house to unload the car. Neither Dh nor the skids got up to help. As I slam the door coming in with the last arm load Dh goes, why aren't either of you helping mommy? (thinking) because you didn't tell them to and you all are lazy pieces of crap. (saying with annoyance) nevrmind, I'm done now.
I unpack the groceries and bring the bags of school stuff to the table to sort and organize. I hear the baby scream. I look in the living room and he's still in the friggin car seat. So I go over and swoop him up, and Dh get mad cause he was "just about to pick him up." And the skids didn't even say thankyou for their school supplies.
BS then came to hug me and said thank you for his crayons again and asked if my and the baby wanted to color with him.
And that, in a nutshell is why I love my BS more than words can describe and why the skids will never compare.
YAY for BS! Boo for your
YAY for BS! Boo for your DH!!! I would have had a fit.
That is cute!! I tell DH all
That is cute!! I tell DH all the time that the dogs are the best ones in the house. They love me unconditionally, they don't talk back and they are adorable!!
I am totally the same way.
I am totally the same way. Going to the grocery store and grocery shopping is a huge ordeal. It's a time consuming and absolutely thankless chore. After I've created the friggin' list (and menu) with no input from anyone (everyone shrugs and grunts when I ask them what they want), gone and fought the crowds in the parking lot AND the store, price compared, tromped up and down each isle, stood in line forever, dealt with a crabby ass cashier that is over-worked and underpaid, AND had to load it all into my car, AND drive home...
You bet your ass feet and hands better be waiting for me as I pull into the driveway. Then, I want everyone else to carry the shit in while I put everything away. I admit it - I throw a FIT if I have to ask.
I don't cater to crazy.
Wow... DH and skids, just
Wow... DH and skids, just wow. BS is going to make a great hubby someday. Way to raise a good one mama! I'm still kinda peeved w/DH can't even hold his baby while watching the stupid tv!
It's hardly terrible that he
It's hardly terrible that he didn't take the baby out of the carseat. Babies don't have to be held all the time. If he sat there quietly and not annoyed of staying in the carseat, there is nothing wrong with him being it in.
Get the clue that you have to train your husband. They can't read your mind. When you tell him you need help with the groceries, you likely won't need to tell him again. Be married to the man you are married to and not the one in your head, who can read your mind and is attentive and does all the things you want without asking. You will have way less to complain about and get upset about. Life is hard enough and nobody's husband is perfect. If he is good to you and not mean, controlling, or abusive, understand that he is never going to be everything you want unless you mold him that way.
And I'd think that also
And I'd think that also applies to the husbands/boyfriends too.
We can't read their minds. They need to be married to the women they married and not the
ones in their heads. They need to step outside of their man space, man caves and nothing
boxes and be just as proactive in telling us things, instead of forcing us to swim in a pool
of sharks, walk across hot coals, and stand on quick sand.
Just because we are women and/or mothers already does NOT mean that we are equipped to mother their children either.
They should stop the temper tantrums, the pouting, the stonewalling tactics to force us to do what they want us to do because they aren't willing to step outside their comfort zones.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I've never met a man that sat there and watched his wife carry groceries in w/out getting up and helping.
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My IPOD says you are full of bullshit!