I'm new here, so if there is a better forum for my question, please direct me to it. Thanks! I have been married for four years. My DH has two kids and I have 3 kids (none together). All 5 kids are pretty active and involved in school sports, music, etc. Part of my problem is that BM spends first and demands later. She will decide to pay for something (like a band trip to Europe) and then tell my DH he has to cough up half. If he doesn't, she tells the kids he doesn't care about them! He pays his CS and all of the things he is court ordered to pay half of, AND half of a lot of things he isn't even court ordered to pay! We just aren't made of money and cannot continue to pay for things like this. Recently, BM took SS to buy new glasses and she let him get a pair that cost $360 OOP. Nothing was discussed with DH prior to the purchase and now she expects him to pay half. SS has already lost two pairs of glasses and we do not feel he needs to have an expensive designer brand when he can't even keep up with the ones he has had in the past! Side note, I carry the skids on my health insurance (even though BM is court ordered to AND a portion of her CS pays her back for premiums... which SHE DOESN'T PAY) and we have never altered CS or asked her for half of the premium... Also, BM keeps putting me down as the "responsible party" on the skids medical stuff so the bills are coming to me. How is this ok when I have no legal rights to the skids? I could go on and on, but the big question is, how do I put a stop to it without making DH feel I don't care about his kids?