Where did you send your baby? Are you taking notes here? Sounds like he blames, blames and blames. That's going to get him nowhere. Excuses galore, but change needs to start in the mirror.

My opinion.

If you make suggestions regarding sk stop. Nothing good. Nothing bad. Building a relationship means taking care of. Let him do so- he can cook clean and take to activities.

However it sounds like he.does own his decisions.

In the meantime you need to decide do you want to stay with him.

he wants to support BM instead of his WIFE? fine, let him. i've read a few of your blogs and he's been crystal clear about what he wants to do. he's perfectly content with BM owning his balls and allowing her to dictate what happens in your home. he needs to support his wife and his children ONLY, but simply does not want to (this is the TRUE reason he does not respond to her crazy letters, does NOT WANT HER TO ACTUALLY MOVE ON, enjoys her attention and does not put her in her place. not simply blowing her off). his ex considers herself part of the package deal with his kids and he WANTS to include her, HE WANTS HER and is willing to abuse you to do it. honey, he is witholding a part of himself from you and having an emotional affair with this woman. he's blaming you, possibly gearing himself up to leaving you. if my dh EVER told me he wants to support BM, blaming me and not his own choices, those would be the last words he ever spoke to me. you need to set that man free. you need to TOTALLY disassociate yourself from him, his kids and his ex and start planning/making a life for you and your children, working towards him not being in it. whether you stay in the house and get a job or go to a women's shelter, you need to start the process NOW. he's been waaayyyy to comfortable thinking you'll sit back and allow this emotional abuse to continue. YOU ARE NOT A PRIORITY in his life and you need to accept it. if he sees you making plans that you cannot undo easily, he'll either step up or allow you to leave. if he does come back to you, fine, but it will be on your terms. good luck to you honey. you have a looonnnnggg road ahead of you.

I think your DH is still emotionally involved with BM. Based on some of your previous blogs, I get the feeling he's got one foot still in that relationship. Are you sure about whose baby she is having? Sounds very suspicious to me that he would want to be supportive of her because she's having a baby.

Two words - Sister-wives. That's what I hear. He wants to have both wives doing what HE WANTS. Doesn't matter what you and your baby need - it is all about him. He is selfish and unrealistic. Set him free and live your life in peace.

Did BM break up with him?

This sounds like a guy who is still in love with his ex. If she ever gives him the green light, he won't think twice about running back to her.

I'm sure skids and BM will get a good laugh about the rukus they are causing. I hate to say it, but i agree with the other posters. Its time for someone to put you and your baby first and that is obviously not going to him. It's time footer you to start putting you first and thinking about what is best for you.

^^^^Yep. Like I said yesterday, I'd be making him completely available to go back to BM. He sounds like a total asshole!

Maybe call one of those lawyers BM's dad knows.

{{{{Hugs}}}}
Nothing I can say the others haven't,but I feel your pain.

Since he's obviously much more adept at dealing with ex-wives than current wives, I'd give him that option with you, as well. Seriously, it sounds like all you need to do to get his "support" is divorce him.

You sent your baby away?!?

I'm shocked. What could have been so bad that you chose to do that?

Also, DH sounds like he's still WAAAAY too emotionally involved with BM. That's a big problem, IMO.