So I'm into my own place and I had to go over and give the key back to stbx yesterday.
It was hard. Since I blasted him a couple weeks ago, it's like all the anger has just gone away...which is good in a sense and in another sense I don't know what to do with myself since I was SO used to just LIVING on rage...
I wrote him a note thanking him for loving me and that he would always be in my heart...but you guys know what?? It was harder leaving the two cats behind...(one was his and one is ours) and that ate me up more than moving out!! He was touched by my note, and I meant it.
I mean, I will not miss the family bullsh*t...I won't miss his whiny-ass daughters...I won't miss his ex being everywhere...but we did have some good time and I will always treasure those.
He was good enough to help me move, though and that was really helpful.
Meanwhile, I'm actually doing well!!!! I'm getting settled into my new place and I FREAKING LOVE IT!!! I got my new furniture (which I will post upon my myspace as soon as I can)...and it's just wonderful.
Fearless doin' all right!!!
I mean, am I sad my marriage is over?? Yes and no. DH finally copped to the fact that he DID pretend to be something he wasn't because he was tired of how he was...if that makes sense.
As for me...like the song says, I'm rippin' off the rearview mirror ain't I ain't lookin' back!
Congratulations
Congratulations, I am glad life is going so well for you. Can you have pets where you are now? If so, out with the old and in with the new. Just go to petfinder.com and get yourself a new one.
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Oh yes...
I have my one little dainty cat...my little Girl...but for another cat I'd have to have yet another pet deposit!
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Soon to be Fearless the Free!
That's what I miss too...
My two kitties. That is the hard part, because they were about the only affectionate things in my STBX's 'home'.
“Some people think it's holding on that makes one strong- sometimes it's letting go.”
STBX?
I have racked my brain to figure out what that stands for...
HELP!!
oh I have a kitty that I adore, he is my little love bug, everything else could go and I would be fine- if I didnt have M. I would be devastated.
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
soon to be ex
soon to be ex
fearless is free!
im so happy for u...and im glad u have such a great outlook about it. seems like u genuinely are doing really well and that this is the best thing for u. cheers!
aaaahhh
thanks bellacita!!
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
no worries
the lingo is rough sometimes...we need the rosetta stone!
Woohoo!
I'm so proud of you!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Good for you!!! I'm really
Good for you!!! I'm really happy for you!
Way to go!
Good on you, hope you have a fab time, its good that you are not coming out of it and remember the good times and are not all bitter and twisted.
happy
you seem much more happy. enjoy your new home
life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )
I am doing
The Snoopy happy dance for you
"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"
Congratulations ;)
I remember when I left my ex H, a lot of people didn't know how to react to the news. I had an "Independence Party" when the decree was final. It was such a relief just to have finally made the decision to take back my life, that I felt invigorated, impassioned, inspired...I could go on and on. So when people would say, "Sorry to hear" I would say, "Oh? I'm not sorry. I'm very happy now." It took many off guard. My friends who were with me through the decision though, THEY said CONGRATULATIONS because they knew it was one if not the biggest life altering events in my entire life.
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
That is brilliant
I love that idea. I have a friend of mine that did that. He sent out engraved invites and actually had a reception like party. I thought that idea was great. Why not it IS a happy event.
"GO BACK TO YOUR BRIDGE YOU EVIL TROLL. YOU HAVE NO POWERS HERE"
I have heard of people left at the alter
Who still have the reception because it's all paid for and all your family's in town so why not? That takes some guts!
By the way Cru, you didn't answer my request for myspace adds. PM me please! And Need to Vent...I would like yours too to see your new furniture!
“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks
myspace
hey! i want to get to know u all through myspace too...
good for you!!!!
I remember when i left my EXH and the divorce was final...i wrote "just divorced" on the back window of my car and drove around all day. Women everywhere beeped their horns and gave me the thumbs up!!! yey for you!!!!!!!!
ROFL...
How funny!! Yeah people say, when I tell them I am getting divorced, they say..."oh, I'm sorry..." and I snort and say, "I'M not!!" Because I'm not!! It's hard to see stbx and not cry a little, but truly, it's for the best and I'm going to be sooooooooooo happy in the long run!!!
PM me for my myspace and I shall give!
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Soon to be Fearless the Free!
Whoa, I've missed out on a lot!
Well Fearless, I had no idea, but GIRL I'M HAPPY FOR YOU - no use being miserable, right?
Shall we sing it?
FREEDOM! FREEDOM! (If I knew all the lyrics, I would keep going...
)
Congratulation! I'm so
Congratulation! I'm so happy you're doing so well!
So...
When are you going to invite us all over for a big housewarming extravaganza? 'Cause if I start driving now, I can be there in like 22 hours.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
Yikes!
I love the housewarming idea...but 61 hours driving...I dunno
. I'll join you in spirit! Have a big glass of wine for me!!!!
Housewarming party
With the price of gas, it would be much cheaper just to fly!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I know you would invite me
But with the price of a flight from Oz you better not expect a house warming gift!! LOL
Glad all is well..Hugs
Catch xx
*Mean People Suck*
Happy for you
Hi Fearless...
It's been sooo long since I've been on. I'm happy for you and may have to follow in your footsteps. It's not getting better. I will always feel like "that" family (including the exes needs) comes first...not me. I'm heartbroken about a lot. I love my skids but they couldn't care less about me or my daughter....Husband still is not on the same page as me. It is worse than I ever imagined.
Good luck to you my friend.
Hugs,
BW
Wow. I have missed lots
Wow. I have missed lots since I've been away!!
I'm on my own too. Welcome to the club..or maybe you should be welcoming me ? Me my significant other broke up in Nov. I put my friggin Xmas tree upstairs this year!! No "discussions" no pleading my case of why I want it upstairs . I just have to keep Me happy. Where to put a xmas tree is such a small deal BUT it represents all the other little "things" or "battles" or discussions" that had to take place..when we were together or the agonizing over whether or not to even bring "things" up for dicussion. (like expressing my feelings or opinions)
Anyway, good on you girl. It's not an easy decision. Know yourself, don't sacrifice yourself, for an illusion. If you can't make it work..don't spend your life being miserable.
I'll have to read in more detail what has happened
Take Care
Lovin-life
all said so well, go find
all said so well, go find you own happiness.
There is no reason where logic does not exist
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