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Stupidity and Why I Have to Deal With It!

Submitted by Dawn on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 8:25am.

I knew how this was going to play out but I didn't get asked my opinion before the plan was made. Why doesn't that surprise me.

First example of stupidity: Mon. night Bm calls here late and wants to know if her live-in ex can drop ss off at 8am Fri. morning. She has a dr. appointment and live-in ex has to drop off his 4 yr old at the babysitter and get to work, supposedly it would be too early to drop ss off at either the bus stop or school. Second exapmle of stupidity: Dh agrees. No questions asked. I will give Dh credit for saying that he would go into work late to take ss to school but I said no.

So this morning comes around. 8am comes and goes. Ss is still not here. 8:05 am I get my shoes on, go outside, start the car and sit in the driveway and wait. 8:12am ss is finally dropped off by live-in ex. We proceed to follow live-in ex on our way to school. In front of us is ss's bus. So this plan of Bm's was total stupidity!!! Live-in ex could have easily dropped ss off at the bus stop or school. Why involve us at all and she's at her dr. appointment totally clueless of all the stupidity going on!!

Then to add insult to injury, ss still didn't have his jacket that he left at Bm's on Sun.He was at her house last night so he should have had it this morning. I told him numerous times that he needed to make sure he found it when he got there or better yet, he should have called her and asked her to bring it to him at our house so he could use it. He chose not to do that. This morning ss acted as if it were MY fault that he didn't have a jacket this morning!!! This is because I refused to let him take another jacket yesterday morning to Bm's house so 2 jackets could be lost over there. Ahhhhhhh! I just want to scream. Of course ss probably told Bm that DAWN wouldn't let poor him wear a jacket on Thur. morning. So I'm sure my name was mud last night and this morning when ss HAD to wear long sleeves because it was chilly this morning and he had no jacket!! HA!! If that were only the truth!!!

It's supposed to be really nice this weekend so no one will probably give that jacket another thought and it will just be incorporated into the Bm mess.

Someone had better find that $50 Nike jacket in all of Bm's clutter(and I'm putting that nicely!!)

So no, I'm not having a good morning so far. I've dealt with stupidity to the max and ss's attitude. All when it is supposed to be my day off from all of the step drama!! Grrrr!

Dawn

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call her and tell her:

Submitted by vickmeister on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:01am.

Tell bm that ss left his jacket and you expect to get it back at the next drop-off/pick-up. If you don't trust her to remember even after you call, bluntly ask her to--right that very minute--go find said jacket and put it in a bag attached to the inside front door handle. That way anyone exiting or entering the house will see it. Hopefully it will be a major inconvenience every time the doorbell rings. And even if BM knew about the idiocy that happened this morning, she wouldn't care or think it was any big deal. She'd likely say, "Dawn doesn't really do anything, after all; what's the ruckus about?"

I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.

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That's what we'll have to do

Submitted by Dawn on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:16am.

I tried to let ss take care of the jacket since he is almost 13 but it is obvious that he can't. Once he gets to Bm's house, all sense of responsibility and reason go out the window!

After Dh calls her tonight about the jacket, I think we will not be answering the phone. Voice mail will be the rule. It's going to be really nice this weekend, ss isn't here and we are going to enjoy ourselves if it's the last thing we do!!

Dawn

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It's called "The Black Hole"

Submitted by crayon on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:19am.

def: An area of space-time with a gravitational field so intense that its escape velocity is equal to or exceeds the speed of light.
A great void; an abyss

I do believe the gravitational field is created by the intense aura of HATRED toward BF and me so that explains it.

This is pretty much always the BM's house. I've lost countless items to the "black hole"

I'm on my 3rd set of weight training gloves b/c the oldest SS11 thinks it's "cool" to take my gloves w/o asking, wear them and "forget" to remove them when he goes skipping back to BM's house

Needless to say anything I value will need to be kept under lock and key. SD9 is a budding klepto, so I think I WILL get a safe: BF has been harping on me to get a safe to keep important papers in it (i do that at work under lock and key; why clutter up my home?) BUT I think I WILL get that safe to put valued items of mine after all, skids have NO respect for other people's property.
GGGRRRRRR!!

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You know

Submitted by laughterandtears on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:41am.

Every school that I have ever attended and that my kids have attended, allowed kids to be dropped off at 7:45am. Not to mention, if ex bothered to use his head, he could have easily figured out that SS could be dropped off at school by 8:12am, with no problem.

I would have to tell BM that next time SS is supposed to be at your at a certain time, you expect him to be there or she find another person to do her job. Personally, I tend to make appts when the kids are already in school, why couldn't she do that?

~IT WAS WORTH IT WHEN I BEGAN~

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Yes, Yes, Yes

Submitted by Dawn on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:50am.

That was another point I made to Dh. She is not thinking about ss, only herself. She wants to act like she wants ss at her house as much as possible but then when he's there, he is treated like an annoyance! She pushes off her responsibility onto every body else.

Dawn

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