to DH about his kids behavior and it felt good! We are going to this lake house with my family this weekend and he said he was a little nervous about spending the weekend with my family. I told him he would be fine, they love him. I was more worried about having the kids there all weekend becuase they just don't behave. He stopped, said they really arn't that bad, and left for work kinda mopey like I had hurt him. I knew he would be upset if I said something, but it has been bulding up and I had to let him know how much it is bothering me. He honeslty thinks it isn't that bad, I think he is trying to compensate for the fact that they are dealing with a lot of changes and that makes it ok to act out sometimes. The other night I had mentioned something about how badly SD13 treats SS6 and he just says, "I know, and I don't know what to do about it".
SD 14 was caught skipping school again, annouced she is bisexual and has a girlfriend. He is at a total loss about that too. Then he takes her to get her lip peirced and lets her stay up until 11:30 playing video games!?! I think he should take some parenting classes. I would go with him. It could really benefit us.
Maybe by his saying "they
Maybe by his saying "they really aren't that bad" is just another way of trying to convince himself that they aren't??
For a lot of parents, it's very difficult for them to admit that their children aren't flawless plus it gets back to the whole "guilt" thing doesn't it??
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
I have recently told my
I have recently told my fiance that his children are not yet "ready" socially to attend functions with my family. I am hoping that they have ironed out their table manners, at least, before our wedding. Here's hoping!
I did have them over to my
I did have them over to my families house for Easter. My parents have a formal dining room with china, crystal... the whole spead. They were very well behaved for the hour. I just know they won't be for a weekend and at home they never are. It's difficult becuase they are good kids, and I know they know how to behave but they are pushing there limits and he is not setting them straight. I don't want to think I don't like them, but at times i really don't like how miserable they make my homelife. We need to come to a common ground on rules and discipline but it has been a difficult issue that we have been tip-toeing around for some time now. I have a 7 year old daughter, and she isn't perfect either, but she is a sweetheart most of the time, and stays with my parents during the school week. Being an only child, she doesn't have any of the fighting problems we are dealing with with his kids.
He really tolerates a lot
He really tolerates a lot from them and I can tell sometimes they are getting to him, but he has very bad disciplinary skills. Usually he will very passivly ask them to stop over and over and it never works. Twice now I have seen actually stand up to them and get loud but it only stops for a few hours. Maybe its the disneyland dad syndrome.
you think thats bad
try having 3 screaming kids laughing and playing banging about until 2 every time they stay 2 are nine the youngest is 5
i know how frustrated you are tho its so frustrating ! especially when u dont love these kids
my skids are always in people faces telling them to get out of my apartment and BF says nothing so if you needto chat pm me or something
good luck
oh the only way i finally got my BF to see was just plane tell him his kids where bastards and that wasnt just me that thought it it seemed to have sorted things out a little they now are up til 12
and he says something ocasionally when there being rude but its a great improvement
life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )
Your DH has to decide to be a PARENT....
instead of a BUDDY. He's not doing those kids any favors by not teaching them to have social skills, respect and common courtesy.
God knows the world needs a few less "entitled" kids running around.
We teach the kids social manners, common courtesy and respect and I have to report we've been pleasantly surprised when we take the kids to someone's house, we are complimented that that were the only kids that took their dishes to the kitchen and cleaned up their own mess....we passed this on to the kids so they'd feel proud of themselves.
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
Ya know the more I think
Ya know the more I think about it, maybe there isn't much DH can do. I really think SD13 needs therapy. She is very controlling and mean to SS and my daughter. I really think all the problems stem from her.
My SD will also soon be 13
My SD will also soon be 13 and for the last 6 months she has also gotten extremely mean, mouthy and down-right snotty to everyone.
Maybe it's puberty???
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
there is alot
your DH can do and back you up is one of them
he defo soundls like a guilt parenter to me i think the two of you need therapy to gt some one totally strange to yo both to help him see this cos i have been trying forvever now and it aint working so we due to start therapy in june
life is a box of choclates you never know what your going to get (i always pick the coffe of the box what about you )
We actually do go to
We actually do go to therapy, but our therapist sucks. We discussed SD one time in a session and he did acknowledge that she was getting bad but thinks she has a slight case of Aspergers syndrome (a very mild case of autism). The theripist also suggested therapy. So DH knows, but just doesn't know what to do, he kinda blames her behavior on that as well.
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