Saturday I went to pick step kids up to take them to a party b/c they never do things that normal children do. So there mother pulls up and SD 6 gets out so that she can gets her medicine. Then just as loud she says SD6 take it in the house b/c you know everytime you go down there you lose something. While their grandmother is in the background co signing everything she says. Then she said yeah and I know that she is going to call FH call I don't care he is nobody. What I should've done was made SD6 and SS9 GET OUT of my truck and let her sorry ass take them. She is a piece of shit. She lives with her boyfriend and doesn't even have her kids, and for their grandmother to co-sign really pissed me off. When she was in ICU i took those kids for a whole week without getting a thank you or anything. So i called FH and told him NEVER will i keep those kids again. If they are not with him then they will not be at our house. If you make a fool out of me once shame on you, but if you make a fool out of me twice shame on me. and i refuse to be used by anybody fuck that. That pissed me off. I think that she is really getting shitty b/c my wedding day is the 31st. Her mother even had the nerve to tell future husband that GOD only recognizes his first wife. Sorry but i just needed to vent.
Dont be sorry, let it all
Dont be sorry, let it all out... this is a great place for it!
Its good to get angry, and its good to vent :)
So many second/third wives and stepmothers take this kind of crap for so long because they do it for their new husbands. But let face it, our new husbands often abuse our trust that they will back us up by just not being firm enough with the ex and/or the skids because they feel guilty.
We have each put up with the crap and felt the hurt of not being supported by DH, and we have each got to this point where we have said enough is enough I'm not being treatd like this anymore.
Put yourself first for a change. Try to step back and analyse situations rather than reacting with hurt, anger and frustration. It will be less stressful for you.
Also - 1. God does not recognise HATEFUL PEOPLE it has nothing to do with how many times you have been married. Do you really think God would hold it against your husband for making the mistake of marrying a psycho the first time around? And 2. The best revenge is looking wonderful and having a beautiful wedding day. DO NOT let anyone or anything spoil your day. (My hubbys ex insisted on showing up at our wedding to pick up the skids meaning people had to go outside to talk to her, the bitch. I say again let NO ONE ruin your wedding day
But, what about the wedding?
This bickering and poor behavior isn't going to go away because you get married . . . experience would dictate that it will exponentially increase. Please be prepared for that. It will get worse.
And I said that to my skids PLENTY of times . . . but in reverse. And I didn't say it to BM's face. I can't tell you how many times she would drive the 45 minutes to our house to deliver them only to have me call her on her way back and ask where SS's antibiotic was. So back she would come, and complain about her gas mileage. Or she'd forget the costume for a play that she simply HAD to see that very day but forgot it had to be returned when we needed it for rehearsal. The skids would forget everything they took to her house, because no one at her house was expected to be responsible for anything. She wouldn't ask them to do simple things like: put your clothes, homework, etc., in a walmart bag and hang it on the front door, so we'll have to see it when we leave. She couldn't realize that in the rush to get out the door (always late) and back here, stuff would get forgotten in the ensuing chaos. So no one was responsible for stuff that LEFT here getting back here. Not saying you aren't trying to get their stuff back to BM's; just saying that I experienced the same phenomenon in reverse. Maybe taking very detailed notes about what comes over, and making a checklist as you stick everything back in the sack or suitcase or backpack to go back--including that checklist-- will shut that particular whine up. She may be projecting her disorganization--stuff gets lost all the time, and she can conveniently blame you for it--on a convenient target: You.
I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.
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