Step Talk

Smurfy1smile here. I cannot post using my name. BF may have to try for custody of his BS 5 months since so far he is a little delayed. He did not roll over until he was 5 months old on the nose. His little head still tilts/leans to the same side most of the time like its too heavy for him. BF and I think he spends most of this time sitting in his car seat, no or little floor or tummy time. I guess only time will tell for now. We will have to see how he does with crawling, walking, eating solids, etc.

What kind of neglect are you talking about? Have you checked the laws in your state?

My skids BM voluntarily gave kids to DH. He was just happy he had them. After a couple of yrs, I told DH, you better legalize it because BM can come and take them anytime she wanted to. He took her to court for custody and got it. BM did not fight it of course. She has tried to cry on my shoulder about feeling guilty. But she made her bed. I was present at the hearing and I was troubled by the fact that the judge not once asked why a BM would give up her children, but 95% of the time court give custody to the moms, no questions asked. Everyone knows that that assumption is a mistake sometimes. Maybe because dads don't fight about it. I know I would go through hell and back for my biokids. My skids BM still continues to neglect them. There is always a social event more important than them. Her loss!!!!!

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I wish she would...our problem is that BM thinks she's a "fantastic" mother when SD is failing school, on wrong meds (so much so the school nurse filled out an eval on her0, BM STILL hasn't got SD into psychiatrist like school wants, etc. BM is in denial when SD calls DH begging to live with him saying she doesn't want to be "left" there with BM. when BM asked "what about me" SD said she would visit sometimes!
When is it neglect or is all that not? oh, and BM is bipolar & doesn't take meds. She thinks she is "fantastic" remember!?

in that same boat with you - bm is bipolar - just met her 5th soul mate since september but where she lives, there is no such thing as neglect.