So this weekend while FDH and I were out and about with some friends, we ran into BM (and it was her weekend to have FSS4. Where was FSS4? No idea.) BM and FDH had some tense words with each other outside of the bar - I grabbed his arm and pulled him inside, not wanting to start things in public. I went to the bathroom while FDH got our drinks. Just a few moments later, someone comes into the bathroom to tell me BM is punching FDH in the head in the bar Apparently BM had had a good amount to drink by this point in the night, and found nothing wrong with knocking 2 bottles out of FDH's hands and then proceeding to punch him in the head, all while screaming that he had supposedly "shorted her $30 child support". (Which is not true, he's been paying above what he is even supposed to be paying her.)
So, I come running out of the bathroom to see a couple guys pulling her off my FDH. I can see red marks on the side of his face. I'm livid. I call her a f***ing b**ch. So she tackles me to the ground, grabs a handful of hair and punches me in the face. I've never been in a fight in my life; I usually make fun of people who get in fights like that because it's so trashy. BM loves fighting, has been arrested before for fighting, has physically assaulted most of her family, and used to assault my FDH when they were still together. Needless to say I didn't come out on top in the fight. Doesn't help that she's built like a lumberjack.
No police reports were filed that night; FDH and I immediately went home after this happened. I was very embarrassed. I'm an extremely private person and this was all very public. So at the moment I'm looking up info on what I need to do to make a report and possibly see about getting some kind of order of protection. I think my FDH should do the same, but he thinks this will interfere with him being able to pick up FSS4 (BM has full custody). Does anyone have any experience with this kind of craziness? If my FDH filed a report against her, what would happen with FSS4?
Oh I forgot to mention, the bar has video cameras and everything is on tape. She's banned from the bar.
I also wanted to wait to file charges to see how she was going to act about the situation when she had sobered up. As expected, she is now refusing to let FDH see FSS4 on his Tuesdays and Thursdays, her reason being that in the court order it says 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. But FDH was switched to second shift and she had been letting him have FSS for a few hours in the morning instead. Now she's saying FDH will only have him every other weekend. So it looks like we're going to have to go back to court and get a lawyer this time and try to get custody just so we can put a stop to her bullying..
Anyway, if anyone has any advice or thoughts, I'd appreciate it. Thanks for letting me vent some