So I've been a SM for 7+ years now, last year I only had the SD visit for the summer. I wasn't working at the time so I watched her during the day while DH was at work. As soon as my DH got home, SD would meet him at the door wanting a hug. Then she would sit next to him (as close as possible) when they were watching tv. It irritated me a little but I just chalked it up to her missing her dad, so I said nothing about it. Skids only come to visit us during the summer.
So after joining ST last month, (never knew about it) 
I saw some posts about the little GF issues. I brought this up to my DH a few weeks ago before the skids came out. I pointed out a few things that I saw last year during the visit. He laughed about it being cute but said he would keep an eye on it.
Well sure enough it has started...lol. Just this last week or so, she has been majorly clingy. We went swimming on Saturday and she would not leave him alone in the pool!! My SS11 was in the same pool and had no problem going off the diving board, slide, etc. When my DH finally got out of the pool, she pouted about it. He was drying off and had the towel over his head, she got out of the pool and stood in front of him (scared him to death when he moved the towel! LOL). She wanted to sit at the table and pout that he got out. I told her to either get back in the pool or go sit in the locker room and pout, but she wasn't going to sit there and complain. So back to the pool she went.
Last year, when I would take her to the same pool. She would play with other kids, go off the diving board, etc. I didn't let her hang all over me and be made to entertain her the whole time. My DH has begun noticing it more and more, and doesn't let her practically sit in his lap when they are watching tv. Doesn't allow her to make decisions on who sits next to who when we are out. My DH sits next to me.
SD is now 10, will this get worse as she gets older? Are we taking the right steps now to stop the behavior? I have no bio kids, so I am clueless. He spends plenty of time playing games and talking with her but sometimes I would like to be able to sit next to my DH! LOL
holey moley, what this is
holey moley, what this is teaching us is to ACT NOW- don't wait until things are changing since they will not.Sick!!
We are all in this together.....
i understand ur point of
i understand ur point of view...but she is a child...my daughter and son are always clinging on to their dad that doesnt get me upset, why would i get upset if his daughter would do the same...
come on seriously...i would understand at maybe 11-12 they know it upsets the other person but not at 6...shes a baby...dont do that to ur husband...its his little girl.
My SD is 10, not 6. I would
My SD is 10, not 6. I would agree that at some ages they need that type of attention but she is much to big to be all over him at the age of 10.
She puts those kids in clothes, I wouldn't let my dog wear...
Had a bit of a ‘stressful’
Had a bit of a ‘stressful’ evening with FSD (11) on Saturday. We went to the pub for tea (we normally do on a Saturday night if we are down at BFs’s parents) and she did the ‘mini girlfriend’ bit again! Wanted to sit next to him……. Followed him up to the fruit machine…….. sat with her arms around his neck for a good 5 mins and was basically over him like a rash! It was embarrassing!! Even people in the pub kept looking! I showed my displeasure to bf when we were leaving and he had a ‘word’ with her that evening – told her the new pecking order etc and that she is his daughter and I am his girlfriend and there is a massive difference so stop being silly! I even shouted at her as we were getting out of the car as bf was dropping us off then popping out to get a paper (he was only going to be gone 5 mins)…. She wanted to stay in the car with him! I finally lost my temper and shouted ‘for goodness sake **** – get out of the car’!! – shocked them all! Lol – bf said I did the right thing and that she needs to learn…. I was bloody fuming! But she was ok yesterday…….so maybe some if it sunk it! Lol
Thanks I know he had a talk
Thanks
I know he had a talk to her but I am not sure what he said ( I haven't asked) - as long as she knows that my relationship with her father is very different from her own things will be ok, but BOY does it naff me off! - why do girls do this? it's pathetic! x
My SD11 has her period,
My SD11 has her period, boobies the whole nine. One evening I was sitting at my computer and my husband was lying on the couch. This overgrown child dives on the husband and is lying all over him trying to wrestle with him. I immediately told her to stop it and that it was in appropriate behavior for a child of her age. I told her that lying all over her father and playing with him like that was not cool and that she was not to do it again. My husband later came to me to say that I hurt her feelings and she thinks she did something wrong. DUH!!!!!!!!!! She did and she should feel bad. That type of behavior is inappropriate.