If you're not married to this guy, RUN FOR THE HILLS.

Send a private message to Rags. Honestly, your BF sounds a lot like his stepson's bio-dad.

Best of luck and please keep us posted.

If he sees absolutely nothing wrong with this inappropriate behavior, you're doomed, sorry. How old is this girl? Maybe talking to her parents would help. Do they have any idea how heavy these kids are getting and that your husband is allowing it in his home?

Reading this post made me feel gross.

I dare any kid - mine, his, someone elses - to make out like that in front of me. That's just wrong.

Hell, I don't even want to be sitting next to my married friends while they make out like horny toads. A little PDA is ok, but you know...there is a line.

Clearly Dad is wishing to be a granddad by 35. (Oh god that made my head spin and I'm over 35)

I guess you have to start by talking to him, then talk to the girls parents - if all else fails, move to a different house where people have some decency and decorum

WOW - at 38 i dont even Make Out with my BF in front of my parents!!!

and what kind of morals does this girl have makingout infront of BFs dad.... to me that would be Creepy

Sorry, but your SO is a falure. If his judgement is this poor, why stick around?

Ask him if he allows it because he likes to watch.

Then ask son if he does it because he likes his dad as an audience.

When you can't beat them, make them feel stupid.

I think dad may be getting off on watching the two of them. No parent in their right mind would be OK with this.

Next time be sure to pop popcorn. Walk in & dim the lights. Drop a bag of popcorn in Dh's lap with a pair of 3D glasses & give him an ottoman to kick his feet up on before you leave the room.

You shouldn't have to "request" permission to feel comfortable in your home. If dad has no qualms about his son fathering a child at 15, the least he can do is send them to ss's room. If he isn't willing to speak up, you have every right to do so.

I was actually going to post the same thing Helena did. Maybe he 'allows' it to continue because he gets off on it. That and he's encouraging such blatant and disgusting disrespect. He's pretty much teaching his son to treat women like whores, that sex is a spectator sport and that his Dad is a perv. *shudder* He's also making it well known that how you feel doesn't matter. I'd never stand for that. You may not be able to tell him how to raise his kid (Lord knows SOMEONE should be telling him), but you have every right to put your foot down in your home.

Run. Run hard, run fast...just run. Even if everything else in your relationship was Disney fairy tale perfect, this is huge and icky enough to be a rock solid deal breaker. I'd already have been gone.

I would ask him if his kid does that in front of him what does he think those kids do when he is NOT there??? Then I would call him grandpa every chance I got, even during sex.

I'll probably get flagged, but does this give your DH a boner? My oldest is ENGAGED and all they do is hold hands in public. At least in front of family. very vomit-y.

I have a distant relative who is a Grandmother at age 32. Like mother like daughter.

My step son did that ONCE! My DH said nothing to him, but I did! I don't care if he's not my kid. I'm not going to sit there while you make out with your girlfriend! Gross! First time I elbowed him -- second time I kicked him to make him stop. If he's going to act like a dog, I'll treat him like one! haha -- btw, it wasn't a hard kick. Just to get his attention to make him stop -- we were at the movies and they were sitting right next to me.

Then later when girlfriend wasn't around i told him that was way inappropriate.

I agree with calling him "Grandpa" every chance you get. I also suggest getting a spray bottle and squirting them with water if they start making out again. It works when dogs start humping things! Maybe give your H one for good measure....

I would break out your phone or vidcam and record it and tell them its Going up on facebook and your mailing a cd to her parents! and then report SO to CPS or the cops, pack up and run!

OK, here's what I said to my dh when I got uncomfortable with his constant inappropriate advice to ss14 on how to pick-up/treat girls. I told him that he was training the boy to treat women with zero respect and that he was going to turn out to be a user. I then pointed out to dh that he was way too interested in scoping teenage girls with the kid and that I think he is a closet pedophile (this pissed off my dh to no end ) now every single time I think he is even looking in the general direction of a girl, I call him a pedophile and I say it loud enough for anyone around us to hear, just to humiliate him. I have found that humiliation and calling him on his inappropriate parenting has been effective, it may not change what's going on in his damaged little brain, but on the surface he at least has been trying to better his parenting skills. I also pointed out that he was going to be a grandpa REAL QUICK if he didn't straighten out the ss on respecting women, no matter how young they are. My skids are not allowed to have friends of the opposite sex over to our home per my rules because I don't want to deal with this issue at all anymore, if the ss gets some stupid little girl knocked up it's out of my hands.
BTW You should be uber pissed at the SO...