what do you guys think of women having three kids with three fathers? do you find it sane and normal for kids to see this and be part of it? especially when theyve had several stepfathers in there.
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too many too many fathersSubmitted by guiltystepmom on Tue, 07/10/2012 - 12:32amwhat do you guys think of women having three kids with three fathers? do you find it sane and normal for kids to see this and be part of it? especially when theyve had several stepfathers in there. |
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My husband's ex was also a
My husband's ex was also a grandma at age 32. That is what happens when you start at 14 and the cycle continues.
Keep calm and carry on...
OK, easy, people. We are all
OK, easy, people. We are all on this site because we want to make sure our lives and our kids' lives are of better quality, so I am pretty sure most of us are pretty awesome people. BTW- technically, anybody that does not get married a virgin and is currently married can be called a slut, so that is probably most of us one here haha. Now-there is a difference between a smart whore and a stupid whore. And I will not tell you the difference, it is for each of us to think hard where we fit and why.
Here is the scenario that frightens me, though: three babies and no father, one mother, probably quite bitter, raising more bitter kids that are feeling the lack of the second parental unit. They feel the pain, the anger, the rejection, take it into their adulthood and get hooked on drugs, alcohol, disfunctional relationships, promiscuity. Is that what you want to see the world become in the next generation? Now, on the other hand, if there is abuse, you don;t want to see that either.
It has become a very complicated, disjointed world, all we DO have is each other's acceptance and kindness and communication. And hopefully the kids understand their world and learn to cope with it.
It's gross and weird and it
It's gross and weird and it messes kids up. My mother was one of those. Couln't keep her damned legs shut for nothing! Had kid after kid, never once taking the kid she ALREADY HAD into consideration. Had to hold on to those loser men, you know. I'm ashamed that I came out of her scuzzy body!!
my mom had my brother and i
my mom had my brother and i by the same loser, but she still sounds a lot like your mom. she allowed our sf to abuse us and her, as long as he didn't leave. ruin my kids lives, just don't leave. carry home std's or whatever you might get from all the nasty bitches you cheat on me with, just don't leave. all that mattered was holding onto her worthless dh. my brother and i were no more than a welfare check to her. i am ashamed to have come from that abomination of a woman, as well.
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."
I have a friend that has 4
I have a friend that has 4 kids by 3 different dads. I love her, and her kids.
This thread is out of hand.
Who am I to judge someone else's past?
That's all I have to say.
"They were threatened by my intelligence and too stupid to know that is why they hated me."- Sheldon Lee Cooper
bi...I'm so sorry. I can
bi...I'm so sorry. I can totally sympathize. Unfortunately, we cannot choose our parents, or force them to make decent choices. My mom sat on her hands and let her loser husband beat on me, too. Just as long as he stayed. Desperate whore.
thank you. i always knew even
thank you. i always knew even as a young kid that one day she would be all alone because of what she has done, and she sort of is. she got bariatric surgery and lost a ton of weight and divorced him. nice, huh? after he ruins our childhoods and the damage is done, she leaves him because SHE feels better now and doesn't need him anymore. selfish c**t. i ran away at 15 and had a baby at 16 just to escape. she's remarried now, but they've been seperated for several years. she lives alone and apparently likes it that way. she's more and more hateful as the years go by. she will never be in a relationship again. my brother can't stand her. i can't stand her. most of the family can't stand her. over the years, she turned into a braindead drunk. she can't go more than a day, and even a day is hard for her, without getting drunk. and she truly does lose all ability to think, and that skill was weak to begin with. she will strip in front of strangers, stagger around and fall, she spins in a circle slapping her right hip and calls that "dancing", oh my God, i could go on for days.
she has 3 grandkids and would rather be drunk and stupid than spending time with them. i had her babysit against my better judgement a couple of months ago, and i got called once on the way there to see if i was there yet, twice while i was at the restaurant with my bff to see how much longer til i was leaving, and once on the way home to see when i would be there. why? because she was in a big yank for me to get back and get my son so she could get drunk all by herself.
she truly is disgusting. i want to smack her every time i see her.
she ruined last thanksgiving by getting drunk and only cooking half the meal. i'm so done with that bitch. there will be no more holidays with her. thanksgiving was the last straw. she's all freaked out about 12/21/12 and insists that my brother and i and our kids HAVE to be at her place that day. uh, no. if the world is ending, i don't care to go out around her drunk ass and stupidity. no way am i going there on that day. she'll be lucky to see us for Christmas, since that's always a drunkfest, too. just what i want my kids to look back on in the future and have for memories. man, i HATE that bitch.
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."
My mom also waited for too
My mom also waited for too much damage to be done before she finally divorced. Maybe our moms are related? Lol! My mother is a sociopath and I hate hate hate her. I have not seen her or spoken to her in 22 years. I was 19 when I told her to french kiss my ass. I never want to see her again. I tell my kids that she is dead. It was always about her. I hope that abusive, controlling man was worth everything that she gave up to be with him.
(((((hugs)))))
Edited - too much personal
Edited - too much personal info (removed)
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CS - 3 months to go on Number 1, 4 years on Number 2.
Former SD15‘s BM has three
Former SD15‘s BM has three kids by three different guys, and only x-H was involved at all in his child’s life. She wasn’t married to any of them and the older two have nothing to do with their fathers. When BMs are stupid enough to do this, they have mental and drug problems usually and the kids end up completely f’ed up.
BM liked sleeping around with guys and wasn't really even dating. She and x-H were just “f-buddies”. He was 18 and stupid, but BM was 28 at the time and the mom to 2 kids, lied about being on birth control. My guess is she wanted a source of income from child support since the other dads weren’t paying and xH was in the military.
BM’s kids were taken away for abuse and put in foster care and then did nothing to get her kids after they were taken away. She left the state and didn’t even show up for court appearances.
These kids were doomed from the start. Their BM was a nutjob. My marriage ended having to deal with the insanity of dealing with SD15 and her crazy half-siblings.