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Took SD to dinner for birthday...BM forgets to call

Invisiblestepmom14's picture

This day was unbelievable!!! My DH picked skids up for summer visit. It's SD birthday today. Well SS isn't feeling well we think he has same cold like SD has so DH takes him to ER. Which leaves SD and me to have dinner together. SD is really sweet and I love spending time with her. So I ask which place for dinner, she tells me, so we go to fav place. DH is still at ER with SS. So we're back home and BM hasn't called. It's almost her bedtime and they haven't seen BM since last night!! I asked SD if she wanted to call BM, she says no. Sad her own mother can't call on her birthday!!! Seriously I could kill the woman! Who doesn't call their kid on their birthday!!!

So sad for SD, wish she could stay at a home where she is wanted....

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

My stepsons' egg donor never sends Christmas gifts, birthday gifts/cards, calls, nothing. She said she is not going to buy things for people she does not see. Very sad. I think the last time she gave them a Christmas gift was in 1998 or 1999.

Invisiblestepmom14's picture

That's awful!! I don't have kids of my own so skids are very important to me. Can't imagine not giving them presents and calling them! She just makes me so mad! I don't talk to her at all for these reasons!

Orange County Ca's picture

Perhaps she had a early celebration or best wishes.

There is no point in going out of your way to judge the BM - you'd do better to use that energy in trying to establish or maintain a working relationship with her. Makes life a lot easier.

ER for a cold? Achoo? I assume the lad was in some sort of distress - breathing?

Invisiblestepmom14's picture

This BM is unable to be friendly to anyone who doesn't bend to her will. I won't do that. When you accuse someone of child abuse with no evidence the week I'm marrying her ex, she just shows her true colors. Who needs to be friends with someone like that?

oncechoosetosmile's picture

eeeeewh, hearbreaking, no kid deserves to be forgotten by their own parents.No way ever that ex hb or I could ever do that.Mind you , I make a big deal out of it, so nobody can forget.

Invisiblestepmom14's picture

Yea, she seemed to still have a good night..we are doing a party this weekend for her too. SS is feeling better he was running a fever and having shortness of breath. But he is ok, thankfully! And can enjoy the 4th tomorrow! Thank you to all who understand its unacceptable to not wish your kid happy birthday! Some people! LOL

stepmisery's picture

Just a bit of devil's advocate...

If BM and SD were together just the night before, possibly BM has already done her celebrations with her daughter?

Perhaps BM does not call because the celebrations were already done and to not interfere with Dad's time?

Invisiblestepmom14's picture

I'm sure BM did something for her before she left for the summer. But BM overly favors SS, and SD is very aware of the favoritism so when she doesn't call on her actual birthday, just reinforces that her mom doesn't care and that's just sad to me. Sad

janeyc's picture

Well then Im so pleased that Sd has you, its so sweet that she was happy to spend her birthday with you, a lot of kids would have kicked up a stink about it. As for her mother well I just don't get it, a phone call takes no effort at all, perhaps she forgot at least thats better than not caring enough, of course either is unacceptable, it dos'nt matter what Bm did for her birthday, you still call your child on that special day.