What is fair (sorry this is long)Submitted by shabner on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 10:19am
Hoping someone can give me some objective advice on here. My boyfriend has recently moved in with me. I have asked him to pay for half the rent, I pay the groceries, utilities, cable, phone, internet, plus my half of the rent. I have 2 older children 18 and 19 who live with us full time. He has 3 younger children who are with us eowe and holidays.
When he first moved in the arrangement was that he would pay half of the rent, while I paid everything else, partly because I am the one who has the kids in the house full time, and partly because he is still paying the mortgage on his x's place.
I make 30 grand and he makes 60-70 (self employed)
After all the bills and groceries I have very little money left. This has been reduced to zero money left because of his kids, that he does not pay for. When we go shopping he allows them to put expensive items in the cart. Last weekend he told them that we were going camping, and of course we don't have any camping stuff at all so he decides we need to go to the hardware store to buy a tent, dishes, campfire stuff, and other camping things, coming to over $200.00 and walks away with the kids when it's being rung in so I have to pay for it.
Then we went to the grocery store to buy camping groceries, this amounted to $160.00. He gave me $100.00 to put towards that. After this I had to go out and purchase life jackets for the kids that were $60.00. Then a stop on the way home from camping to eat at a restaurant that cost almost $60.00.
This brings my cost of this "family" camping weekend to $480.00 minus the hundred he gave me so $380.00. He paid for the campsite, which was $50.00.
So in total for a weekend that my kids didn't even go on I paid $380.00 and he paid $150.00. So now rent is due, I have only enough money left to cover my portion of the rent. He has just went out and put a new back tire on his motorcycle, and is buying his son a ipod touch for passing grade 2??? He hasn't given me his share of the rent yet, and I am worried that he won't.
I guess I needed to vent a bit, but I actually would like to know if anyone thinks it's fair that I pay for everything except half the rent and also end up paying the majority for anything to do with his kids? What would a fair arrangement be?