I'm back home, made my apologies to DH, and everything is sort of back to normal...
I realized after a lot of thinking and sulking that I didn't want Junkie to have enough power to drive me out of my own house. I still want to be in this family and I'm not going to let some little jerk that's only here for two more years ruin our entire future.
DH also finally agreed about calling the cops, right after I talked to my father who turned me against the idea. Now our plan is to ship his ass to rehab if he does it again. In the meantime, we're testing him and searching him, and he's earning money through chores and forfeiting allowance to buy his own tests.
One other positive: he's been clean so far.
Our only worry at this point is that we'll have problems from BM about the rehab decision. She has turned a blind eye and has failed to follow through on ANYTHING she said that she would when we talked. I know that if we needed her signature on anything, we would be screwed.
So, for those who have been through this or know the procedures, and given the fact that DH shares custody 50-50, do we have a fight on our hands? Or do we have the right to do this with or without her?
If she fights you then let
If she fights you then let her have him.
And I am glad to see that you went home and are trying to make it work! Good luck!!
How old is this kid? I was
How old is this kid? I was under the impression he was over 18. If so you cant make him do anything. If he is under 18 the rehab will want both parents involved. Insurance will cover but before they will agree to any in patient, first they have to go out patient - usually a couple of days a week. If the kid bombs of that (they will drug test) then insurance may agree to in patient.
If the BM is not in total agreement you have a problem. We did not get one penny for SS22 BM for his treatment. She was broke or too busy buying $500 shoes.
Good luck.
KM
Heh... then we may have a
Heh... then we may have a problem because she's the one who has them on Medicaid...
Let's celebrate with a magic trick! Pick a number! Square it, divide it by the original number, take away the original number!
You've now arrived at the amount of fucks I give.
And why are YOU apologizing
And why are YOU apologizing for anything? You did nothing wrong.
KM
My apologies were for telling
My apologies were for telling him I wanted a divorce when I really didn't. Another poster got me thinking about how wrong it is to use that as a threat... which I did do once I really look back on my thought process over the past week... I also said a lot of shitty things out of anger that I never should have said.
As far as the Junkie deal though, I made no apologies for that. And DH understands my POV with it now.
Let's celebrate with a magic trick! Pick a number! Square it, divide it by the original number, take away the original number!
You've now arrived at the amount of fucks I give.