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SebringLad's picture

How do you all do it ?

Submitted by SebringLad on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 7:12am

Hi all,
After reading many posts,problems,etc.,i am just wondering how do you all cope with the emotional and financial stress of being stepparents ?
I am not one yet and gotta wonder,is it all worth it ???

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outtahere's picture

Answer to the last question

Submitted by outtahere on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 7:34am.

Answer to the last question is a resounding NO.

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A mother is not a person to lean on but a person to make leaning unnecessary.

--Dorothy C. Fisher

Re: PAS - 'Youth is easily deceived because it is quick to hope' (Aristotle)

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overworkedmom's picture

Do you have any kids of your

Submitted by overworkedmom on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 7:34am.

Do you have any kids of your own yet? How much visitation does your SO have?

For me it was just adding another kid. My FDH has full custody of his son and I have custody of my two. The incubator is minimally involved and so I don't have too much drama from her- its more the fall out from the lack of her. FSS gets very jealous of my bio's and that they have me. He also gets jealous of his dad spending time with me, even if it is just us watching tv curled up together. He acts out in very aggressive ways at home, school, camp and even in public places. It can be embarrassing and frustrating. But our issues are normal for a blended family and we are adjusting and growing as a family.

It's worth it to me though. I love my FDH so very much. I also love FSS, he is mine now even if he didn't come from my body. This is my family now, and I am happy much more often than I am stressed or overwhelmed.

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SebringLad's picture

Oh yes,30 yr.old married

Submitted by SebringLad on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 8:19am.

Oh yes,30 yr.old married son,2 grandkids as well !!

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Helena.Handbasket's picture

If you can avoid it, please

Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 8:12am.

If you can avoid it, please do.

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There's no need to interact with me, I'm just here to observe. -Sheldon Cooper
Formerly *Alwaysanxious*

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dtzyblnd's picture

I don't know to be honest.

Submitted by dtzyblnd on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 9:08am.

I don't know to be honest. There are days I want to kick DH and his son out of my home and my life. There are days when I sorta kinda feel sorry for them, but then Hannibal Lector Jr. ((((CLARICE)))) does something to put me back in the NUMB ZONE.

I love my numb zone. Its my ipod, my kindle, my computer and a give a shit all nothing attitude....

I have zero financially liabilities or responsibilities for SS10. If I pay the daycare, etc...I ask for my money back from DH. Seperate finances, and that shall remain until DH
is smarter with his money, and his son stops acting like a serial killer in the making.

Cold hearted, but FUCK! I have a 16 an 12 yr old that I am responsible for and happen
to LOVE. Fruit of my womb vs. anti-christ from hers??????

Im just happy the BM isn't in the picture. Coz if I can barely deal with this situation w/out her in it, there's no way in HELL DH is ever gonna have another woman stick around.

Not unless she's blind and deaf. Just sayin.

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My IPOD says you are full of bullshit!

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Manymoments's picture

I regulary look up house to

Submitted by Manymoments on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 8:52pm.

I regulary look up house to rent. Im always one foot out the door.

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Hi! I am Manymoments - why? - Because I have MANYMOMENTS of thinking " What the hell was I thinking becoming a STEPMUM!!"

My true religion is kindness - Dalai Lama
He obviously never had a stepkid.....

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luchay's picture

LMAO - me too!!! I thought

Submitted by luchay on Mon, 06/25/2012 - 9:33pm.

LMAO - me too!!! I thought that was just me. I have to say I really have my finger on the pulse about real estate in my area at the moment... LOL - OH wonders why...

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Buzybee82's picture

it all depends on your and so

Submitted by Buzybee82 on Tue, 06/26/2012 - 12:29am.

it all depends on your and so relationship. how strong is it? how well do you communicate? are you two a team over the step kids & him being a team? do you have kids together? how long have you been together? in the step kid(s) life? is bm in the picture and if so how's that working? how do the step kids treat you? how old are they? just a few questions lol

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