BM added two weeks to the usual 8 weeks that we have my FI's daughters with us every spring-summer. They are with us every other week and BM is their daycare provider (she fought for this in court). Never mind that she claims her daycare is now closed every Friday, she also lied and told us she opens at 8 when she is really open at 7AM. She would love to be paid for daycare, but that's not how it works in MN when a bioparent is a provider for their own kids.
My FI agreed to the extra 2 weeks with his girls, because he wants more time with them. 2 things....
1) They start staying with us every other week at the end of April, after they have had a whole school year of routine.
2) My FI works every morning Mon-Sat, and I'm scheduled 1-3 mornings a week at my job on a 4 week rotating schedule. We have had zero luck finding a babysitter for these scattered hours.
I am now to the point of being annoyed. Nevermind that i'm the taxi driver/nanny to the SD's while FI is at work. I can live with that, because we work as a team to help get everything done. The BM and SD's also COMPLAIN on the mornings they have to get up earlier. (During the school year, its just 15-20 min earlier than usual) and during the summer they go back to sleep at BM's anyways.
So, when i'm helping to buy their food, clothes and entertainment while they are here, i watch them while FI plays sports from time to time and i try to make this feel like a home....why, why, why! is it ok to complain about my hours? These aren't my kids, i'm helping out. If I didn't have a job, they wouldn't have as much as they do. Their dad would have to find a random babysitter mon-sat instead of 1-3 mornings a week.
SD 8 is already passive agressive. Apparently the schedule was "so hard on her" last spring that she went to her BM's and cried and slammed doors. She never said a word to us. My suggestion to my FI? Quit agreeing to taking them earlier and earlier each spring while they are so young. Why disrupt their schedules, just because BM apprently doesn't want them around as much?
I should have added that they
I should have added that they go to BM's an hour early the AM's that i work. She agreed to this, and just complains anyways.
"On some beach, somewhere".
Geez.Isn't she their
Geez.Isn't she their mum???What is all the daycare crap she is doing there with her own children???She should be so grateful about what you guys do for her.Instead she is complaining.Sorry, but it sounds as if your SO and BM are using you- SO seems to play his "we are a team card" with you , but, hey, who wouldn't like to be in a team with you- you do everything and much more than you should- this is of course very handy for him.I don't know, but it sounds as if BM is manipulating both of you and that you are used .
We are all in this together.....