Aye -ye- yeSubmitted by amyrenee on Mon, 06/18/2012 - 2:46pm
Ok... so this is my first post and i havent really read many people's posts. I was referred to this site from a doctor for whom I work for. So, needless to say, I am hoping I can vent and get some good advice.
First of all, I am a young mother of a 3 year old little girl who is my absolute everything. A year ago, I met the guy who soon became my fiance. He, on the other hand, is a father of a 2 year old little boy who lives in Wisconsin. Did I mention that we live in Texas?
So yea... we live across the country from his son whom he never really gets to see.
So this is where my story begins..........
Last week, while I was at work, my fiance texts me and tells me that he *abruptly* decided to make a trip to WI to see his son for his three days off. Note: I do not like the bio mother only because she is nosey and a freakin "innocent" Miss Perfect. Let me also say that my fiance was a big player back in the day and when we first got together (like 2 weeks post making me his girlfriend) he had a one night stand with another girl. Well right after Spring Break (after my little family of 3 traveling across the country for the main event of seeing his son...and 'her') he got really drunk one night. After I had went off to bed, he continued to stay up and drink. Well a couple days later, I got a text from the BM saying that my fiance had texted her a bunch of crap. "I love you C***" "No one will love you like I do" yada-yada. Well, it turned out to be all true. He admitted that he was texting her but didnt remember saying all that stuff and that if he did, he was sorry. Well that is him admitting it. So since then, I have REALLY never been able to trust him, especially with her. He swears up and down that he hates her and would never want to get back together with her. WHATEVER. I'm just really insecure so my inquiries only make my imagination thrive.
So anyways... He tells me that he's going to WI. I threw a big fit. He then tells me that if I dont let him go then we are over. So naturally, i cried... and lost it, basically lol. Cause, even though he's done some pretty crappy things, I still love the crap out of him. So he tells me it'll be just one day and he'll come back late that next night. Well after talking it over to some friends, I finally feel okay about it. So i text him just to go ahead and go. When i get home just a few hours later, he tells me that since he had taken off that Sunday (because our wedding was going to be on Saturday he took off Sunday as well,...but we postponed it because i just got out of nursing school and had no energy to plan a wedding) he was going to go ahead and stay til sunday. I was mad! So we had a huge fight. I didnt want him going in the first place, let alone staying over there for 4 days! After a long night of fighting, we finally agreed that he would leave Wed night and come back Friday night. I begged him to promise me that he would come back Friday. And then he did. I asked him again in the morning. "promise me that you're coming back Friday." "I promise babe." Well that morning I go to work and I get a text saying pretty much..."F you. I'm staying til Sunday. I want to see my son." One word... PISSED. So I go home at lunch (where he was at) and freakin let er rip. He then tells me that he already booked his flight til Sunday. Again, one word... LIVID. I went nuts. This kid barely knows him and my fiance is risking our entire relationship to go off and see him?! Am i just freakin stupid or selfish or do i not just understand!?!?! Well I told him to get the hell out. If he doesnt care about me that much to freakin lie straight to my face then he needed to get the hell out of my house. So i started grabbing his stuff and throwing it into the living room telling him to leave. Well i was running late on getting back to work from my lunch break so i took his house key and took off. He then texts me later saying that he was sorry and that he didnt want us to break up. So he changed his flight to early Saturday morning. That was a good compromise i guess. But this whole time Im scared to death that he is going to get up there, spend time with them 'as a family' and they're going to rekindle or remember some old feelings and want to get back together or him end up cheating on me....all because of that stupid kid! (and i dont really mean to call him stupid...i'm just very angry and having episodes of word vomit through my fingers). Well last night we got into another fight because of his kid... he ends up saying some pretty hurtful things... ok so I'm pretty much a good deal overweight. I would be considered clinically obese. He said that having sex with me was like having a threesome and that when he's down there he's going to have so much fun having sex with all those other girls. So yea... I cried my eyes out. He instantly said sorry and that he didnt mean any of that but you just cant take stuff like that back. And now i just cant help but feel like 'that kid' is tearing up our relationship. And my poor daughter is caught in the middle cuz i never wanted her to see me upset and thats all she has seen for the past 2 weeks.
PLEASE!!!! GIVE ME FEEDBACK!!!!