Do bio kids go to BM's house?
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DH and I are trying to have a baby, and for some reason he told SD7. She has talked about it non-stop since, and has asked several times if the baby will come to BM's house with her to visit. :O I immediatly looked to DH and expected him to say "oh honey of course not!!" Instead he said "well we'll have to see!"
Later I let him know that I didn't believe that I would be comfortable with that EVER, and I didn't think it was a good idea to lead SD7 on. He agreed and said whatever I wanted was fine, so we were ok with that, but I had never even thought about this before... have any of you experienced this?! And what did you do?
Oh hell no. If I can help it,
Oh hell no. If I can help it, Lazy McCrazy will never even lay eyes on my child! I get pissed when SD calls her mother and mentions DS. He is none of her business!
I have a situation where my
I have a situation where my younger BS13 likes my YSD17 and REALLY wants to go see her house.
NO ONE is inviting him to go there, and if the BM was not such a hateful person i would not mind. But at this time i have no idea how to stop him talking about it, when skids are here and when they are not. I feel like saying to to him with them here ( as i have said to him privately), some relationships are like a 2-way street and some are 1-way. It is ok... we want to be welcoming to the skids... even if they do not reciprocate. It is getting harder though to redirect him off of this topic.
I hope my son never wants to
I hope my son never wants to go "home" with sd. I am training him to not want to do so. His first sentence might be "SD's mom is a crazy bitch". }:)
FUCK NO.
FUCK NO.
bd17 spent the night with sd
bd17 spent the night with sd once at bm's house. i didn't have a problem with it because i don't have any problems with bm. if she was crazy like some of the ones the rest of you have, no way would i do it. i lucked out with a bm that doesn't cause us problems, but sd causes enough for both of them.
I let DD sleep at BM's
I let DD sleep at BM's mothers house a couple of times (BM was living there at the time) and it was ok. I only let her do it because at the time she lived a minute away. Now I would never let her go. We live too far away and she has gotten crazier!
Why on Earth would they?
Why on Earth would they?
Consider a kid visiting their
Consider a kid visiting their half-siblings home as a bridge. Although I can understand being nervour about the ordeal in the end it might open up avenues of communication and end some of the competition between the ladies.
It's not about competition.
It's not about competition. It's about wanting part of your life, an important part, to be yours and DH. To have some sense of a family unit that doesn't have to include BM.
This! I don't need to build a
This! I don't need to build a bridge with that assclown and I sure as hell won't use my child to do so. He is MINE. I don't have to share him.
I babysat my ex-husband's
I babysat my ex-husband's child he and his new wife shared. I was ok with it, in fact she called me Mommie a couple of times which my kids thought was hilarious because she heard my bioKids do it. She was very young then about 2 or three. I thought nothing of it, I felt it was nice that my kids could spend time with their little sister.
Lol my ss's BM wants US to
Lol my ss's BM wants US to take her daughter instead. It's ridiculous and just plain weird.
Kids who go back n forth by
Kids who go back n forth by themselves want someone to go with them. My sd used to "miss" the brother she never knew who died after birth before she came along because she knew they could've gone between homes together. But what your dh said was stupid. I hate when they do that! They just can't stand to be the bad guy and say something that their child might not like.
My ss7 asked this about our 9
My ss7 asked this about our 9 month old. He asked when BS gets older can he come visit me at my moms. Now I would never ever ever let that happen but DH also told him that we will see. By the time your child is old enough to stay with bm your sk will be older and more understanding of how things work. Don't crush SDs hopes by saying that it will never happen. Tell her that you will have to see when BIo kid gets old enough but that will be many years away because babies need to be with their parents because they require lots of care. By the time your child would be old enough your SD will probably already figured out on her own that she has two families and her brother or sister is only apart of one of them.
Wait a minute. He said
Wait a minute. He said whatever you wanted was fine? Does that mean HE thought it was OK but conceded to going along with what you wanted? Like he thought his 7 year old could tote a baby to someone else's home? Huh?
My SO is the King of We'll See. Drives me crazy. I can understand avoiding conflict to a point, but at some point the kid can be told "no" about something.
What would have been wrong with "I know you're going to have fun with the baby, but baby will need to stay here with us"?
My son go to Lack McCrazy's?
My son go to Lack McCrazy's? No way no how. She wouldn't even want him to come, but if she did it would be a big fat no. SS5 has ask if my son could go, but the answer is always no.
Now, if I hadd another baby that was SS5's half-sibling would it happen? No, no way. The only thing that woman does right is screw up her child, I won't give her the chance to screw up mine.
its weird i let my x husbands
its weird i let my x husbands stepson stay at my house couple of times with my son when they were teens but no way would i ever allow my child to stay or go to my SD mothers house.. i think it has to do with different parenting styles. BM does not know how to parent she just pretend she does. i get along with my x husbands wife and we parent not the same but simular. now as far as the mother of my SD i would not trust my dog to go that home for the night alone my Bio child.