Im mulling things over in my mind as to when things started to go wrong, I had been living with bf and Sd then 5 for one week, she spat in my face, tripped me over and slapped my face, my bf did nothing, now I knew that things would not be easy but having done the whole thing before I did not think that it was ok for him to let her treat me that way, now 2 yrs later nothing has really improved, am I crazy for expecting myself to be treated with a modicum of respect? Am I crazy for thinking that you should teach children manners? Am I crazy for thinking that as I do everything for them both then my opinion should matter? I made the mistake of treating them how I would wish to be treated myself, when in actuallity I would have helped myself more by urinating in the wind, what a thankless task, I like to think of myself as a fairly intelligent person, yet I must be totally brain dead to have put up with this for so long, for me happy spinsterhood and many cats await.
Too late for that, Im packing
Too late for that, Im packing tomorrow, obviously Im not good enough for them, Im blubbing now drinking beer by myself, but soon I will be free of all the stress they have put me through, sorry need to vent, life is shit at the moment.
Good! You sound like you have
Good! You sound like you have put up with way more than anyone ever should.
There's no need to interact with me, I'm just here to observe. -Sheldon Cooper
Formerly *Alwaysanxious*
Maybe things didn't start to
Maybe things didn't start to go wrong anywhere or any specific time - maybe it was just all wrong from the beginning. Getting out of a few years of wrong with a boyfriend is a hell of a lot better than getting out of decades of wrong with a husband, mixed assets and grown kids who still can't stand you. Be thankful you live in a time and place where you have the freedom to live as you choose - including a relationship where you are treated with respect. No one knows what the future holds, but we can all hope. That should be your companion now - hope - for a better future and the strength to get out of this and make a clean start.
So did I but apparently Im
So did I but apparently Im totally unreasonable.
fuck him and his stupid kid!
fuck him and his stupid kid! run for the hills and never look back! u will be better off!
I am so sorry things have not
I am so sorry things have not worked out for you but you are making the right decision. If your BF let her get away with acting like that from the beginning, it will never get any better.
You are not crazy for wanting to be treated with respect and your BF is an asshole and is creating a monster.
Learn from this in case you find yourself in the same situation in the future. Lay down the ground rules right away and make sure they are followed (that's what I did). A couple has to be on the same page from the beginning and let the kids know who the adults are, who the kids are and who is running the show.
In my house, no kid was ever going to be running the show and I made that very clear.
I was lucky as my husband's daughter knew better than to disrespect me ever, much less in front of him and we never really had any serious problems in that regard. Had she spit in my face, I probably would have had to keep my husband from beating her to death (and he's not even a spanker). That would have really pissed him off! What was he thinking, letting her do that to you? Tells me he doesn't respect you any more than she does.
Cut your losses and find somebody who does respect you. You deserve better. Good luck in your wonderful, new life!
Spinsterhood? There must be
Spinsterhood? There must be millions of un-attached guys out there who don't have children. Don't give up so easily - just learn from your mistakes.