How do you deal with a BM who has others convinced that she is an Excellent Mother?
He took her to court to have her pay child support (she was never paying it before) and several people sent him emails calling him a "Monster" who was "trying to ruin a poor woman" and deprive her of her children.
She left SS11 and SS13 (who were SS2 and SS4 at the time) at his mother's house while he was deployed and then never came back for them. Three years later, when the kids are able to talk, she shows up and acts like nothing happened, wanting her kids back. He got primary custody and sued for abandonment but the judge said "I just can't believe a mother would do that to her children" which is very naive if you ask me. Must have been a new judge.
Anyway, here we are, several years later, DH takes her to court to get child support mostly because SS13's braces are expensive and he is sick of her calling him and saying "I am a good mother" so he makes her demonstrate some of the responsibilities of being a good parent. Like taking care of them.
I wouldn't have cared until recently when she started having others gang up on DH.
Got it. He is a grown up. He can defend himself. It's the lies that are driving me nuts.
The way I rationalized this is that she is either lying to people OR these people can't put two and two together and see that the kids were with him for the first 5 years of their lives.