When I first found this site I did not realize how many of us have similar issues. I have found myself coming here almost every day, reading posting, getting good advice and also giving opinion. Blending families or getiing ivolved with someone that has children when you don't is probably one of the hardest things to endure in my opinion. There are always going to be good days and bad days. The main thing I find to be most helpful is in a situation like mine where his children were already grown getting advice from a professional is probably the best. I practiced the tools she gave. I have set bounderies and I know I am a part of this family though a rather unconventional one. I am so happy that this site was created for I always feel better after closing down my comp. thank you for being there. We all need to pat ourselves on the back once in a while.