Step Talk

Hmmmm...it's hard to give specific advice without knowing the two of you, but have you tried talking about what you appreciate about each other? I know I must have some strong feelings for my husband if I can still find nice things to say about him, even while I feel like I want to scratch his eyes out. LOL I know we discovered in our relationship that for some reason we would brag about our spouse to other people but wouldn't take the same time to tell each other. We didn't even realize it until we pointed it out to each other during one of our "talks". It might help just to reaffirm your feelings for each other and remind yourselves why you want the marriage to work.
I should tell you that it doesn't always work. We're at a point where we are stuggling and I feel a bit like a hypocrite giving any marital advice at the moment, but thought I would at least give my 2 cents about the biggest thing that we noticed made a difference.
Allyceson

In my relationship, we like to be closer than ever when we have stepfamily issues. We communicate everything we dislike & don't want to see in the future nicely. Then we need to be affectionate to each other everyday so we don't lose our minds. I guess the key thing is good communication and to control bad emotions and talk it out instead of yelling at each other. Spend time alone w/each other.

-happy mom

Communication is the key!! Without communication skills, nothing else will fall into place. Its important to just sit and talk, cuddle, do romantic things together. Cherish the relationship, and make it #1, above all things. Ive been married for a little over 3 yrs, and I didnt figure out the key until about a yr ago. My DH and I would argue over his vendictive ex, and step children issues all the time, and I was ready to give up. I didnt of course. We just learned through each other how to communicate with each other. Take a walk together, go see nature. There is something about the smell of the air, and nature that has a great calming effect. Put your troubles aside until you are less angry, then discuss the problem. Go see a movie and hold hands, share popcorn. Never ever loose who you are, or what attracted you to your spouse in the first place. Sometimes my DH and I have a romantic picnic on our bedroom floor, with the door closed after the kids go to bed, which works out great for us, because we have wierd schedules, hes a Cop and Im an EMT, so we eat late at night anyway. You'll find little things that work for the both of you, as time goes by. I wish you much luck!!

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