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Mother's Day

Nothemom's picture

I'm just wondering others thoughts on this. I was talking to my girlfriend over the weekend and she said that she was upset that her sk's didn't recognize her for mothers day. I was surprised because I'm SO glad that mine don't say anything to me. I would be so upset if my kids didn't say anything to me but my husbands kids I hope that they don't ever recognize me on that day.
How do you feel about being recognized on Mothers/Fathers day?

Unfreakingreal's picture

My SS19 bought a card and both he and my BS14 signed it. He gave me a "shake hug" the morning of. Shake hug meaning, he grabbed me from behind and literally shook me around like a rag doll. I laughed and asked him if that was his version of a hug and he said yes. I have been a mother to this boy so yes, I would have been hurt had he not acknowledged me.
SD wasn't with us Mother's Day but when she saw me this weekend, she asked me how was my mothers day and I said it was nice. She too hugged me and wished me a Happy Belated Mother's Day. Despite the dramas with being a blended family, I have been lucky thus far with my Skids. Let's see what happens when SD becomes a teenager.

BSgoinon's picture

I DO get my feelings hurt if SS doesn't recognize me on Mothers Day. If BM were his "MOM", I mean REALLY a mom... you know, did MOM type things. And I didn't have to do it for him, then I don't think I would care, but since I AM HIS MOM I would get my feelings hurt. He is good about it though.

hismineandours's picture

My feelings were not hurt that ss did not acknowledge me on mother's day-however I felt it was rude and disrespectful. I am a "type" of mom to him. I do FAR more for him than his bio mom does (whom he called on his own accord to send her mothers day love)-and I felt I should have at least been acknowledged.

Reznov's picture

:jawdrop: Oh HELL NO!! This is not ok! BM gets a trip to the day spa and you can't even get a Hallmark?! Not cool

knitjersey's picture

Mother's Day was a lot harder than I thought it would be. My boyfriend dropped my SDs (7 & 9) to church w/BM's parents in the morning and they went to BM's from there. I got them ready for church but no one brought up Mother's Day. I understand that I am not their mom, and I will never be, but it still hurt. We have them 4 days a week, including every weekend (minus Friday night). I am the one who braids their hair before school and kisses them good night and goes on rollercoasters with them and deals with the tantrums over brushing teeth and bedtime. BM doesn't do much of anything, she has her parents taking care of the girls most of the time they are with her. It just seemed like a jab that she got recognition for the things that I do. It sounds selfish, but it is how I feel. I cried more than I should have over it.

bi's picture

i'm content with not hearing from sd. i don't want to have to talk to her. what i find ironic is how she is constantly blatting on and on about how i need to be a mother to her, bla bla bla, yet she doens't recognize my bday or mother's day. apparently, i am the only one who has a role to play, and that role is to dote on her and spend money on her, she doesn't have to do anything but suck up all the attention and money. too bad for her that's never gonna happen.