"SD did get a job...., but not without giving DH a huge guilt trip"
For the last three months SD18 has been telling us that's she's going to work – and how hard her schedule is now that she is working at night (although, still not going to school) and giving DH a guilt trip for HAVING to work... LIE.
It was all a lie... a big fat LIE. LIE LIE LIE.
SD calls and asks for car insurance money. I was so proud of DH when he told her no. Ahhh, but then BM gets on the phone and says she’ll pay one more month of car insurance for SD, but if SD doesn’t get a job in two weeks she’s kicking her out.
WHAT? BM KNEW that SD didn’t have a job? She KNEW that SD was on the phone asking DH for $ for insurance?
Ok – so I let that all slide (sort of, still a little raw with the whole thing. But, after reading how much Sarah’s DH spends on his kids I don’t feel so bad. Sorry Sarah.)
My first concern was where does SD think she is going after the two weeks are up and she still doesn’t have a job. Sure hope she’s not thinking about moving in with us… not going to happen.
The two weeks are up…. Nope, SD still doesn’t have a job.
She broke up with her 26year old MAN boyfriend - wonder if he got tired of paying for her and taking care of her like she was a child?!?!?!
Now, SD tells DH that her car is broken… it’s overheating. My thought was “SO?” She doesn’t have a job, she doesn’t go to school… she’s had TWO dui’s (she shouldn’t have a car or license anyways) so what does she need a car for???
I haven’t heard yet – but, I am waiting… will DH jump back into ENABLING SD and fix her car ????? I don't want to explode when he does fix it, but I swear... if he fixes it while she has SAT on her A ** the last 7 months...
When does the enabling end?
They must learn it at SD school
My SD has a very, uh, casual relationship with the truth too. She still thinks if you don't ask the exact question the exact way, she is not lying. The topics are getting a little more serious too, i.e. older, adult! unworthy boyfriend.
I will follow up with her when some guy starts lying to her, to see if she still thinks its ok! Thank God even DH is calling her out lately, but she still does it
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
Fix it, yes. Pay for it, no.
If Dad is mechanically inclined and can do the repairs himself, then I would be okay with that. If we're talking about dumping fistful after fistful of money into having someone else do the repairs, then no. Of course, all of this should be contingent upon her being licensed to drive, the car being registered to someone other than either of you, her having insurance (NOT on his policy) and having proof that she will be operating the vehicle LEGALLY. If those conditions can't be met, then he shouldn't touch it.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
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