Angel's picture

Twenty Worst Things

anyone can do when they marry someone with kids:

1. Pretend they are your own.
2.
3.

Most Evil's picture

2.

Start spending your own money on them.

"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil

Colorado Girl's picture

3.

Think that you know how to parent them better than their own parents and try to do the same.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

gobbism's picture

4.

Assume DH knows best.

ColorMeGone2's picture

5.

Make them feel like unwelcome guests instead of family members.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

Mustang1's picture

6.

6. Flaunt/rub things in the birth mother's face.

Georgie Girl's picture

7.

Assume that you will be on the same page when it comes to discipline.

smurfy1smile's picture

8.

Assume you will all be one happy family.

CplStv's picture

9.

Believe that Your SO will Love Yours, "Like Their Own", or That You will Easily Love Their's "Like Your Own".

Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

stepping's picture

10.

Lose your identity and let them swallow you alive. (Maintain your friendships and activities outside of your step family.)

stronggirl's picture

11.

Allowing BM to hurt you through SKids....

PinkPixie's picture

Allow other people to make

Allow other people to make decisions that impact your life. If it affects you, you have the right to input in the decision. PERIOD.

happysomeday's picture

I think that marrying

I think that marrying someone with kids is in itself the worst thing you can do, period.

Sita Tara's picture

14.

Allow BM to occupy your thoughts, manipulate your feelings, create constant drama in your life.

Peace, love, and red wine

no validation's picture

AMEN!!

I 2nd, 3rd, and even 4th this one!!!

Nothing comes easy thats worth fighting for.....thats what they tell me!

sarahbernheart's picture

15

becoming the "mom" without any of the perks.

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”

dazed's picture

16

Take for granted that you will have much quality time alone with your SO (Ha ha)

evilsm's picture

17

Allow any child to be disrespectful.

~Evil

If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. ~Abigail Van Buren

no validation's picture

18

Expect SK's to appreciate you or anything you do.....or the BM's for that matter. I mean, all you do is take care of them right?

Nothing comes easy thats worth fighting for.....thats what they tell me!

CplStv's picture

19

19 Forget Who The GROWNUPS Are, The Adults are The LAWGIVERS, The Kids OBEY The Law...

If You have to, Write The Rules out, and when there is a question/dispute, You can Point To The Relevant Rule, in Black and White.

Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

2ndclasscitizen's picture

20.

don't expect that you'll be appreciated for anything you did, do or will do for blended family

"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN" Sad

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