I do want to remember one more thing-
Since SS was sick Monday, and his mother did nothing, and H called me and didn't mention SS, I decided that since no one communicated anything to me, I had no idea whether or not SS was supposed to go to school on Tuesday.
They always put the responsibility on me to wake him up at 6:00 and take him to the bus stop at 6:45. When he stays at his mom's, which is hardly ever, she doesn't drive him to the bus no matter how cold it is, he has to walk.....
back to the point, no one told me anything about SS, so I decided not to wake him up for school, I just set the alarm for 7:30. When H's ex or H called to bitch at me for not getting him up for school, I planned to say "How would I know he was supposed to go to school? No one told me anything- his mother didn't tell me, his father didn't tell me, so I assumed he wasn't going!!!!"
But I didn't have the opportunity to do that because school was cancelled today for bad weather.
I'm going to do it tomorrow then. For some reason, even though this lady does nothing, she gets really upset when the kids don't go to school....so hopefully she'll get pissed at me, and I can tell her that she needs to be more involved than she has been, and then things like this wouldn't happen.
Then she'll bitch at H and he'll get mad at me, but why should I care?
She was so rude to me while he was in the hospital, and I never told him. I'm sure though, that if she's rude to me now, he won't stick up for me the way he sticks up for her.
chava
Your ss's in high school isn't he? You should tell them all that the kid is old enough to set his own alarm clock and get himself up. I wouldn't even worry about it. They need to get a clue and start making ss responsible for himself. It's not your job to be his alarm clock!
Dawn
this is true- they've
this is true- they've convinced themselves and both kids that they are incapable of waking up on their own- neither of them have an alarm clock, and supposedly, they will just keep sleeping and not go to school unless someone wakes them up personally....
next year ss will be 16 and will be able to drive himself to school
i hope to be in my own apartment by then, but if i weren't, he should definitely get himself up and drive himself to school....
Im sorry but that is just
Im sorry but that is just ridiculous! My 6 YEAR OLD SD wakes up on her own with an alarm clock and SHE LOVES IT! She feels so responsible and is ALWAYS up on time and gets HERSELF dressed and finds her backpack and coat! If a kindergartener can do it I think they can manage!
if you ever want to trade
if you ever want to trade kids for awhile, just let me know....
Buy him an alarm clock!!
That is ridiculous! I feel annoyed at my 10 year old SD's inability to wake up to the alarm clock. There is no WAY a 15 year old should need someone to wake him up!
Boy, Chava, reading your posts really makes me feel better about my own situation. I'm sorry!!!
haha, i'm glad i can help
haha, i'm glad i can help someone feel better
Just wanted to mention
My ss gets himself up with an alarm clock, picks out his clothes takes a shower, gets his breakfast, all on his own. HERE. My Dh just had a meeting with Bm and ss about how ss doesn't have any responsibilities at Bm's house. We found out that Bm doesn't let ss do anything on his own in the morning. She gets him up. She picks out his clothes etc., etc. She was shocked and amazed that ss could do all of these things on his own at our house without being told and yelled at. Ok, the kid is almost 13! Who's kidding who here? I hope that Dh opened Bm's eyes about what she is doing to ss.
Dawn
those kind of parents are
those kind of parents are just debilitating their children- they're hurting the kids more than anyone.
My mom was single and had to go to work before we needed to wake up, so my brother and I got ourselves up and to school every day, from the time we were 11 and 9- he was younger than me, and I never had to help him with anything.
I just don't get these people
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