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That's until the youngest turns 18. But he's got "issues" and will never be independent. Sigh.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
It's 21 here in the great state of NY 5796
My count is 5796 until the youngest turns 21. I have a LOOOONNNNNGGG way to go!!!
Like someone else said, they
Like someone else said, they don't go away at 18, they just get more expensive
Yeah, you go from paying
Yeah, you go from paying child support to paying for college.
18 - yeah right !
It never ends!! 18, 19 20,21, 22 Them kids will always be around - and I mean always! At least at 18 you can kick them out! At 18, they still have no clue !! And what is worst is that they make 18 year old decisions and end up right back at your doorstep.
I know that when that 18 birthday comes around, and for me I kept on counting down, counting down, etc, but for some reason dads don't see it that way. Makes me ILL.
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
I don't think
My marriage is going to last until the skids are 18.
My children are 25 and 28.
"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"
7 years, 1 month and 20
7 years, 1 month and 20 days.
But she's in high school until she's 19.
Sometimes, I can't wait until she moves out.
Got you all beat
Only 369 days till the youngest turns 18. Of course though, CS will continue until they are out of high school, so tack on another 3 months. I think that still makes me the winner!
LUCKY YOU!!
I'm with cruella. mine are 21 and 26. i'm not sure i can be with this man for the next 16 years until he realizes that:
1. he should have listened to me from the "get go" about EVERTHING namely, how to handle the finances through the divorce, the mediation, the divorce filing, child support, time sharing, how to treat the BM and skids, etc. et.c
2. that he should realize the error of his ways and listen to me from NOW ON as regards issues stated in number one.
3. realize that BECAUSE he handled things all the wrong way from the "get go" and that he looked the other way and "took the high road" when PAS was in full swing, his only option now is to basically say to the skids "see ya when you're 21" There is NO undoing the damage that has been done without spending MEGA MEGA bucks (which i do not have and am not willing to part with b/c he didn't listen to me from the very beginning)
You Got It!
I totally agree!
"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"
There
is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it is not an oncoming train!
I know that for some people the light is an on-coming train and for those people, I am truly sorry.
Looking for some sort of
computer timer that will count down the many years i have to go. at least it will make me feel better one day at a time
Colorado is age 19
4,895 days for me until the youngest is 19.
I'm sure we all won't care about it as much by then after the 4 before her....
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
Hate the way the math turns out
Twin Ss's just turned 11 last week so 2549 days left.............
seems like such a long time when you conver years into days
18 soon
my FH trouble child will be 18 March 22 but big deal, he has NO education and no job and no goals, for me there is no light not even a speeding train just darkness..... he might as well just be an infant.
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
10 yrs... ugh
Then all of the children will be out. I hope my marriage can survive this. Sometimes I feel very empty and drained having to dael with all that I do. Then throw in the fact that sometimes I worry to much about things and waa-laa recipe for insanity.
A glass of merlot would be nice about now...
mine
My SS is only 3 months old..........so how long is that? I only want to be rid of BM not him. He is a joy! My youngest is only 7 and I have a ways to go.
3 Months Old!!!
My ex left me when my youngest son was 3 months old and I could never understand or forgive my ex for that. I wasn't even off maternity leave yet and I was only 18. As a BM with a baby that young I never trusted ex to take care of my son. I am curious does the babys BM allow vistation for a baby that young? I ask only because years ago they didn't allow it. I am curious what they allow now.
Just to let you know it turns out my ex found someone shortly after we split but she turned out to be the best SM ever and a wonderful friend to this day. I don't know how BM treats you but she may have a lot of resentment towards you for a while. I know I did as a BM. Here he finds this beautiful woman and I had not even lost the baby weight yet. I personally was devastated and it took a long time to get over that. It is hard to just have given birth to your child and then the baby isn't out long when DH finds another woman. I eventually moved on but only after ex started giving me regulary CS payments. He never really acted like a father but he at least paid his CS.
I don't know your situation but in mine my ex was a real pill. He went around telling SM that I was this clingy crazy vengeful ex that wanted to ruin him simply because I wanted CS and him to be a father. In the mean time he was telling me he still loved me and wanted us to try and work things out. When SM and I finally started talking we realized we both were being played and I finally divorced his ass (and the rest of him). She hung around for 11 years and finally divorced him as well. All I am saying is to keep your eyes and your mind wide open. Trust your gut instinct. If something doesn't seem right take a hard look.
"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"
Do we have the same life?
My first husband left when his daughter was 6 weeks old. He had no interest in children whatsoever; we never discussed it (stupid at age 18) but when the baby DID come, all of a sudden it was "I never asked for a child so I shouldn't have to pay for it." That's his mantra to this day and he is 54 yrs old; my daughter is 26. He is now a professor at the University of Albany in Criminal Justice (how odd). He and his 2nd wife (recently deceased) made sure that he was a professional student and unable to pay any CS until my daughter safely reached age 21. Then he went out and got a six figure income.
The second husband left when my son was seven DAYS old. He started pounding me because I "embarrased him in front of his friends." Actually a woman who had digs on my 2nd husband came over in to "see the baby" (yeah, right, more like to play tonsil hockey w/ my husband) Well one thing lead to another and before you know if he was pounding me again. Well he's dead now. Never got a cent of CS out of him, BUT i never bad mouthed him in front of our son. Although my second hubby DID bad mouth me in front of our son. I trained him to just change the subject; YES I DID ALLOW HIM TO HAVE VISITATION; even though he wasn't much of a husband and a bad influence generally speaking, i did want our son to actually know him b/c i knew he would eventually drink himself to death (which he did).
And our BM thinks she has it SOOOOOOOOO tough with whopping loads of CS and nothing but cooperation from both BF and myself.
6 years to go....
counting counting...
Catch xx
*Mean People Suck*
too many
I can't even do the math. But 5 and a half years, but then what? From what I've read here we can't just kick them out after high school graduation, can we?
My ex's oldest SD is nineteen. She still has stuff at their place but "crashes" at her bf's all the time. She only shows up occasionally for family dinner or to get something. My ex is pretty happy with that arrangement actually as it means she is costing them less money.
Peace, love, and red wine
In my case
I will help out my kids IF/WHEN they really need it (so far they haven't), and his X will help hers. So call me a b....
My step son turns 18 in July
My step son turns 18 in July I'm stuck with him until July of next year because he's only a junior. So my count down is until 19. Can't kick the slob out because his mom don't want him but she'd take him for the child support. The CS is more than she makes working.
I don't think SD will ever leave
She will have it made at our house as long as she wants, DH will never hold her accountable for anything.
~Evil
If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. ~Abigail Van Buren
I don't even want to think of how long!
I still have 7 1/2 yrs until my SD is 18. Why doesn't that feel like a lifetime away?!! Probably because I already know even if she is 18, she won't leave....
Countdown - something to keep me going
I've been counting down ....the months, years....at what age she'll graduate...she's graduating at 17, but child support is until she's 19..so I guess that child support will have to go toward her college education...MORE Than enough....
7 years and 7 months....omg. It's been almost 4 years...I think I can endure 7 more years....lol, it's like counting down days when being pregnant. 7 years...OMG - I'm praying that she'll develop a social life and want to hang out with her friends in the upcoming years...meaning, skip visitation
oh catch
my FH daughter now has a social life and spends the nights at her friends- it is nice..although I really like my FSD we get along well...I am pretty sure she will be non existent once she learns to drive.
now I really look forward to the youngest getting a life..
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
I didn't think of that!
Man, I didn't think of it that way! My SD has like a 100 friends, and I will bet once she can drive, she won't be home at all. So now I just have to count down to 16..... 8 months and 5 years to go! Woo Hoo!!
oh yeah
and work, FSD wants to get a job so bad!!
In In. some places will let you work at 15.5 some more time at work less stress for you!!
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
see smoke
there is always a silver lining right!!!
“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
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