With the start of school coming up, I am thinking that biomom will have no one to pick stepson up from the bus stop (or school-she never let stepson ride the bus home so she could spend quality time with him in the car-whatever). Anyway, she gets him every Thur. and 1st and 3rd Fri. Do you think that I should volunteer to let stepson come here until someone can pick him up? Or take him to biomom's babysitter(if I have too)?
On the plus side for me would be that I could make sure that stepson gets his homework at least started if not finished. Also, biomom doesn't always give us notes that come home on her day and I could check the backpack for notes so no information is lost.
I am not sure what to do. I know stepson would rather come here than go anywhere else and there may be some days that biomom's ex-boyfriend would be off and be able to pick stepson up.
Do you think I am just asking for more problems? Should I just let them figure out where stepson is going to go on their own?
I haven't said anything about this to my husband yet, so opinions would be really helpful!
Help!!
Dawn
Well...speaking from my own
Well...speaking from my own situation I have learned to wait for the bio mom to approach me first. Or else they think that we are butting in with THEIR kid. But your situation may be different. But it's a nice gesture to offer your assistance. It shows that you are concerned and involved stepmom.
I think that you can extend
I think that you can extend the offer and let her do what she will with it…event though she is the bio mom, you’re really the one raising him and she knows that everything you do is in his best interest….also, it sounds like now is a good time to offer since she’s opened the door a little by asking for all the “favors”…
I would suggest waiting to see what biomom's plans are
Hi Dawn,
You have been doing an awful lot of "favors" for biomom over the last several weeks. Maybe it's time you put the heat back on biomom and let her make her arrangements. She needs to learn that she has to put arrangements in place and not keep counting on you to bail her out. It's one thing to be back up in a pinch....but I think she's just going to start walking all over you, and you may have opened up a whole can of worms by doing the "favors". I think that you need some space between yourselves and biomom, anyways. Your going to find out that by doing all this extra stuff, you're going to be spread, way too thin. Think about it. Your heart is in a good place, but you'll find you won't be taking care of yourself, and then you'll be tired. It won't help anybody.
Regards,
Sweetie
Volunteer to have him w/you
Volunteer to have him w/you until biomom picks him up if you don't mind. I hope biomom agrees w/you and takes your help. Let us know what happens. Doesn't hurt to offer help.
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