Step Talk

she probably has her boyfriend call her mommy...
some "kids" just don't want to grow up, I know that would bug me too. My sons stopped calling me mommy when they went to first grade...

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”

These 2 stepgirls are 23 and 26 and they still dwell on the mommy and daddy thing. Even in front of others including myself. My bio daughter, who is bothered by this, (never says that) referred to this as.... "any girl who is over 18 years old when she says daddy.. it means sugar daddy."

Other posts I found online:
... don’t particularly advocate the holding of hands while walking through the mall with a parent and their 18-year-old child. Nor should anyone with an age ending in “teen” call their parents “Mommy” and “Daddy”; at a certain point, it’s just strange.

.... I call someone "Daddy" but it sure ain't my father.

.... If you still are using the term "mommy" and "daddy" then you ARE too young for a boyfriend.

...address you as "Mommy" or "Daddy" just like s/he did when 8 years old

... I'm just guessing, but I think 10 is probably as late as it needs to go.

.... any girl who is over 18 years old when she says daddy it means sugar daddy

she will be one of those girls who dates OLDER men, like you said "sugar daddy...

“You will never be on top of the world
if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”

My mom called my grandpa daddy so it doesn't occur to me that it's inappropriate. I thought it was kind of sweet when she did it actually. It's not like she called him that to me, just when she talked to him now and then or to my aunt when talking about him.

Must be cultural?

Peace, love, and red wine

The minute a boyfriend tells them "Mommy" and "Daddy" are creepy and weird, they'll stop. In the meantime, just shrug it off as stupid immaturity.

Better the widdo little adult pookies say "Mommy" and "Daddy" and channel their energy in that direction than at you.

Best of luck with the sweet darlings! Buy them some lollipops. Grrrrr.....

Calls her father Diddy. It doesn't bother me in the least bit. I know she loves her father. Now a man calling his mother "Mommy" that would seem too Norman Bates for me.

"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"

When my mom was 72 and her mom was 92 she was still calling her mom mommie. In the big scheme of things it didn't matter to me,but maybe it matters to others.

My 12yo SD calls my DH "Dada". I think she uses it as a manipulation tactic for him, wants him to still think she is a sweet innocent little 2yo I guess. It makes my skin crawl when I hear it in that sticky sweet voice of hers.

~Evil

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius

I say it to my dad " Jokingly" when were all making jokes( about fathers and daughters,sons and all that stuff) but I refer to him as my dad, I could not go around saying " daddy", I would feel retarted or something.. wait.. prolly most would think I was:)

I think it gives them a solid link (create linkage) within their family. Meaning "we are not included". My bio daughter and his bio daughter have an apt together financed by us and his daughter still refers to my daughter as "her room mate" never her step-sister. Their parents have been divorced since they were 9 and 12, they are now 23 and 26 and still they can't stop the mommy/daddy thing. They are stuck in Neverland and can't grow up. Even my bio daughter is as sick of it as I am and feels very 'put out'. Once a few weeks ago his daughter got very defensive and stated, "she is not my mother, she is my fathers wife" when someone asked about me. This was in front of my bio-daughter. How can I melt this family when they are so against us! It hurts both me and my daughter.

Perhaps saying mommy and daddy in your family is because there is NO step parent around? In that case - who cares! But when you are trying to keep a step family working, HOW can this "wall" continue?

His kids (boys) are almost 12 & 15 and they will make reference to their mom as mommy. He is constantly telling them to act their age and if they were still holding their mommy's hand when crossing the street it was acceptable, but if they aren't, call her mom. Sounds like baby talk to him! LOL

My kids only say Mommy when they are joking with me wanting me to buy them something...and because we are broke so that doesn't happen very often! LOL

otherwise it's "Mom" or a nickname, and My (S)"Dad" was always "Dad" or a nickname, except as a joke like "Daddy can I use the car tonight, I have a date..." when I was 20 and staying with Him temporarily, long story, stranded 2 states away, during what was only supposed to be a week long visit, and We were more Housemates than Parent/Kid, because We Respected Each Other as Adults, and Freinds...

I know "Down Home" it's a normal thing for a Girl and somewhat for Guys, (of any age) to say "Daddy", but it's a term of Affection, used within Family Context, not in the third person, or in Public, much...

If said Girl and Her SO are "Lifestylers" that is a whole 'nother issue...
Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

Your mother is "Mama" and your father is "Daddy" no matter how old you are. It's not seen as a refusal to grow up, but rather as tradition.

My adult SD always uses "Daddy" when she wants or needs something. She plays him. It drives me nuts. That is the ONLY time we hear from her also, when she needs or wants something.

I haven't called my Mom "mommy" since I was five years old. I do, however call her "Momma" to this day. When he was alive, I didn't refer to my Dad as "daddy" to anyone ... however, TO him, I occasionally said Daddy. Never like, "Daddy, buy me this ..." but more like, "Hi, Daddy ... how you feeling?" ... that never felt weird to me ... but I never said it like a little girl, either. Maybe the "Momma" "Daddy" thing is a southern thing? My parents aren't divorced ... never crossed my mind that it might irritate my Mom when I called him that ... I'll have to ask her sometime.

My second wife and I are in our early 70's. We both worked for the same companies for over 30 years, invested in real estate and the market, and are now comfortably retired. But my step kids, all in their 40's now, are still looking to us for financial help. We have a beautiful custom home, and an income that allows us to decorate, travel, entertain our friends in our home, and to live a little of that good life we worked so hard for. But how can we enjoy our vacation knowing my wife's 50 year old daughter cannot afford to pay for necessary dentistry. She is a public school teacher, has a good job, but she does not know how to budget, and then she makes us feel guilty for enjoying what we worked our whole lives for. When are we free of the guilt?