Step Talk

Im so happy you decided to stay!! We all have days like this and we all deal with stress and our emotions differently.. hopefully now that you have this site you can vent to us and not keep it in and let it build up.. I know that I do that too but lately since I have been able to rant rave and bitch on here and know that people out there know what Im talking about makes me feel so much better.

"Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."
-Joshua J. Marine

I'm glad you're staying.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

We don't allow any non-crazies to join this site; it makes the rest of us look bad. Welcome, pull up a chair and stay awhile.

I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.

"...I've had my share, but then again, to few to mention...."

Oh wait, no, that line of the song was about regrets, not tantrums. Come to think of it, I've got plenty of regrets and I've thrown quite a few tantrums

All I can say, is, Honey, I've been in your shoes. 28 is a tough age, or at least it was for me.

Please do stick around.

What you are trying to do here with your current boyfriend is very, very, very tough. After a lifetime of hard breaks, might do well to sit back, take a break, and work on getting yourself together before figuring out all this stuff out with the DF/BM/SK.

I am routing for you, whatever you choose to do. Try to find more resources to help you get past your painful unbringing.

As for me -- headed to the shrink first thing in the AM to get some anti-depressant/anti-anxiety drugs. Couldn't hurt!

I'm glad you decided to stay...I've had my share of meltdowns

I have had my share of meltdowns and problems where I didn't know what to do. That is what this site is all about sharing caring, and venting. I haven't had much time to read all of the posts yet because I am having problems having one minute alone but I will.

I am glad you decided to stay.

"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"

Ok I am all caught up now and completely jealous you guys can read/write at work. Our computers are monitored and you can get fired for using them for personal use, so I have to wait til I get home.

re. posts . . . I remember when I wrote my first post, it was Anonymous, but a couple people responded and I was so excited. Sometimes they didn't get a response and I would wonder if I had said something wrong. So sometimes I answer a post that no one has answered, so that person doesn't feel so lonely and like no one cares, even if I say something stupid, but just cause I remember how I felt at first.

I do skip them if I don't have anything I feel to contribute, or it is about being a BMs or something I do not relate to or feel qualified for. Around the holidays there were so many I could not keep up, and lately I may have missed a few, but I think we all need this place we can vent.

Warning, I have pms . . .what if we all got on that at the same time-! the horror-!!!!!

"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil

I enjoy coming here so I can vent as well. BTW Monica, we are exactly the same age. I never expected to meet a wonderful guy and become a stepmom to two schoolage children...this was not exactly what I dreamed about. I learn a lot here and I am thankful that I can vent here as well. Sometimes I can go overboard with bitches about the BM but it all depends on the day I have and what bullshit she throws our way. I am hopeful that as the years pass, I will learn not to let her ruin my day with her crappy comments and manipulation games with the kids.
I try not to take anything personal here too. I am not overly sensitive and usually take comments as a new way to look at my situation. I especially love the humor. Afterall, it's easier to laugh about the drama sometimes b/c you know it is not going to go away.

Wind Beneath my Wings - Beaches/Bette Midler ---- Yall are so great, I want a tissue!!!!!!! Do yall notice that I am very new, and am charming in here like I have known yall for years. This site is so awesome, I always thought I would write a book about stepparrenting, you know a step by step manual, but I truely don't know squat!!!!!

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!

if we were all sane and well adjusted we wouldnt be here!!! I am so glad you decided to stay Monica! I enjoy this site and I feel I belong here, I hope I can make someone else feel that way!
"insert some goofy happy song here"

Great to hear that girl!

I was kinda of thinking of that Wham song wake me up before you go go...when I wrote that!! ok ok I am a closet 80's music lover..
so shoot me!

I am glad you decided to stay. Stay strong!

~Evil

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius

I have many times had outbursts and blown up on people, when usually I'm very quiet and nice. Totally understand.
And about the competition, I understand how that is, too.

Everyone says that having confidence in oneself is the most attractive attribute. I'm guilty of comparing myself to his ex and feeling that I come up short, but try not to.
Having had your life screwed up by people and circumstances that are not your fault is hard, but being the rare person who can rise above it and be successful is really admirable.

hats off to you chava!!

I wish I had time to respond to all of you, but today, I really DONT have the time for it lol. But wow, I appreciate everything you guys said. It really does feel like we should all get in a convertible and drive off a cliff holding hands dont it?

Anyways, thank you guys for helping me pry my foot out of my mouth. You are all strong amazing women and I'm so glad to have found you.

"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman

respond to us when you can...I know I am not going anywhere anytime soon!!

LOL!!! Did I say that out loud?

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!

he is an unlicensed driver and I am sure he will be drunk too!!

Make it a big bus and we'll keep our SKids and put all the CRAZY BM'S on the bus headed toward the cliff