My husband just called (left a message). He has to stay late either tonight or tomorrow night and wanted to know which would be better. OK, fine. But, our 4yo BD has dance class tonight. My problem is that he ALMOST NEVER remembers her class. I end up taking her EVERY time, and he shows up about half of the time, usually late. And yet he NEVER forgets SD14's activities, which are twice a week.
This is a serious point of contention between us. Why are BD4's activities unimportant but SD14's activities take precedent over any other plans? And why can't he remember something that happens regularly, once a week for eight months? Am I making too much out of this? It is very frustrating to me.
You have every right to feel frustrated,
I would feel frustrated too. BUT, at least DH called you to make sure which day would work out best.... it seems as if he knows that he has a problem remembering events and so he passed it by you first. I don't think DH is forgetting on purpose.... some people are just more absent minded concerning certain things than others.... it doesn't mean he doesn't care, it just means his head was filled up with other things.
My husbands excuse
Everything and anything I ask DH for he "forgets". It must be a old disease called DHassholeitis. My husband has a chronic case.
"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"
I think it's because
and I am just spitballing here, that there are CONSEQUENCES if he doesn't show up or "forget" his SD's activities. Probably gets horse manure shovelled his way by the BM and SD if he should "forget" SD's activities. Plus he probably is still parenting out of guilt with the SD; whereas he sounds comfortable in his present family situation. You know, it's easier to take for granted those closest to you.
I could be wrong though.
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