Step Talk

I know exactly what you are talking about. We had to do that earlier this year for our 2006 taxes. According to the original order DH is supposed to be able to claim child (only one in our case) every even year.

The form can be filled out to cover the current tax year PLUS any future years. If this was done DH could use the same form each time. However, BM REFUSES to sign for the future years. She would rather us have to hit her up side the head (not really, but I wish) every other year. It's stupid---but hey what can I say---so is she. Maybe you guys can fill out the form to cover all future years then send that to the BM's attorney. I hope she signs it for you.

The BM, when she had an attorney, wanted just the opposite where communication was concerned. BM wanted to be able to call DH anytime she wanted to talk to him about anything (including her pathetic life). She also wanted to be able to come over, meet with him, etc anytime also. BM actually wanted it in court papers demanding that DH must talk to her whenever she said. Haha--she's a fruitloop. DH on the other hand didn't want that. Thus DH requested that all communication be done via email (or postal mail). One main reason DH requested this was because BM was going in to court stating that we had said (in person or over the phone) things that we had NEVER said. This way if it communication the in B&W then there is nothing for her to be able to lie about. It might actually be in your favor to send all communication in B&W even though it is to her attorney.

I'm not sure how the CS is working out in your case, but if you are currently handing it over to the BM then I would stop and mail it to her attorney. That would probably ruffle her feathers some---especially if her attorney doesn't get it to her right away.

we dont' want to do "all future years" b/c at some point we want to go to a 1/2 rotation based on skids ages. When oldest turns 21 we then want to go down to the next skid and each parent takes one child.

When middle child reaches 21, we then want to alternate the youngest. This should have been SPECIFIED in the orignal mediation agreement, but those are SMART people and I am stupid!!! I pointed out the GLARING ERRORS of the document over 3 1/2 years ago but naive BF would NOT LISTEN TO ME!!! ARRGHHH!!

CS goes directly to CSEU at request of CPS BM

i hate tax season because of form 8332. i signed it for my son's father last year, after he harrassed and threatened me into doing it- we agreed to do it every other year, this year should be mine. but i'm sure the 100 phone calls per day and the threats will start soon

about arranging the taxes when the kids get older. That makes sense. It's probably a little easier for us because DH only has one child with BM (thank goodness).

We also went to mediation only to find out a year later that everything they agreed to is out the window. So nothing in the agreement stands any longer because it cannot be put into a court order. We were trying to get things more B&W and not so vague. We wanted everything very specific, but we are struggling with court to get the order that way.

I completely understand about BF not listening to you. It's taken three years for my DH to finally see that I am right. I told him before we got married that I was always right and he was always wrong---the sooner he accepted that the better. He learned.

for getting things more specific. I too pleaded and begged BF not to sign that vague piece of crap but he wouldn't listen to me. Now he (I should say WE) are paying the price for it.

thought that BM would be mature and reasonable. I have to wonder why he thought this as she was NEVER mature and reasonable throughout their entire 10+ year marriage or during their courtship.

Red flags should have gone off when she stole a street sign with her first name on it while out with her drunken sorority sisters and when she got caught plagarizing during college.

Or when she called him up drunk out of her mind and locked out of her car for the fourth time (he was at least 2 hours away at the time working)

Of course she's the pillar of the community now; church member, choir member, works for CPS, boyscout and girlscout leader.

What a friggin' farce!

I can't tell you how many times I have said those words. I have reason to believe that my SD has now joined steptalk so I will leave it at that.

not even have that option. There is nothing in their D that says anything about who can claim and who can not claim. DH pays over $700 per month for 2 kids and we do not get to claim them at all. I would love to send her that form asking that she sign but I can only imagine what the reprocessions would be. Why is it that DH's are scared to do anything such as this because they know the crazy ass ex would lose but the BM does anything they want without a second thought. This is all just BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!

28K a year and is paying $1010 a month plus any extras that come about; of course we don't get consulted in advance on any "extras" BM slaps skids in "status" braces the second they turn 8. so far we have two skids in braces that will barely wash their hands, never mind take care of their teeth! you can see the junk food rotting their teeth away under all that expensive orthodonture!

fact of the matter is, at that rate, he could NEVER afford to live on his own; not even a furnished room for rent as half his salary goes straight off the top to CSEU for CS to the BM

I am very nervous about it as i hear that the mediator is pro-BM They expect a guy to live on 15K in the GREAT and EXPENSIVE state of NY!! Maybe he can apply for FOOD STAMPS, I know they DON'T COUNT CS AS AN EXPENSE WHEN FILING FOR HEAP ETC. SO PROBABLY DON'T COUNT IT FOR FOOD STAMPS EITHER!!! It's really TAX FREE ALIMONY when you come right down to it!

I'm sure BM will trudge in with her phoney child care receipts signed by her mother and her ortho bills for the skids (which we were never consulted about) Her child care expenses have gone down significantly in the past two years and she has a job with CPS so gov't perks! She can arrange her schedule to minimize child care; she has already told us that via SD.

BM makes more money than BF and slightly less than i do, plus has a catering biz on the side AND she lives with her latest BF who makes more money than probably me and BF combined!

and he was also supposed to be responsible for full medical/dental insurance for the 3 skids. which he has been doing until he changed jobs for his health's sake. his new job does not offer insurance for at least a year, so we are trying to get that changed too. The guy barely has $150 a week net pay when BM and CSEU is done with him!