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Vacation Update

stepmom22boys's picture

The boys came over this past weekend crying and giving us a load of crap because we would not allow BM to take them (on our dime) for three days during our Disney Vacation. DH shut them up quickly by telling them that they would not be going since BM has declared that he can not take them out of state. Of course, the boys call BM and tell her that they are not going after all because DH can't take them out of state. }:) She was even more pissed at DH because she has already bought airfare and made their hotel ressies for her, DH and his two kids.

As it stands right now, it's just me, my DD, and her BF going. We will lose money on DH and SSs airfare, but at least I won't have to deal with BM while I am there.

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aggravated1's picture

So the BM might end up going and taking her DH and his two kids, while your DH and her 2 kids with him have to stay home?
That is messed up. What a witch.

stepmom22boys's picture

If you were to ask her, she would tell you that it's all my fault! :sick:

See, she made all these plans without talking to DH first. She just assumed that we would be happy to cover the boys (since it is our vacation with them) while she took them out and had fun, ruining all of our plans in the process.

Of course, she has told DH that he is more than welcome to take them as long as she gets to spend her three days with them while we cover all their expenses.... I don't think so!!! }:)

Disneyfan's picture

WOW

So she will punish and hurt her kids because you won't agree to her stupid demands?

Disneyfan's picture

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stepmom22boys's picture

That is correct, Disneyfan! I feel bad but that darn trip costs a lot. Bottom line is that I am not going to pay for her to have a vacation with her kids. She can take them during the summer and cover the cost out of her pocket.

Jsmom's picture

You should take some of your daughters friends and a girlfriend at this point. Forget this, what a pain in the ass. Who the hell does this woman think she is. It is DH's time. Not hers. If she can't afford it, than she should not do it. Let alone on his time and your dime. Hell no....Find someone else and have a good time. These trips are expensive and should be spent on people we care about.

Justwantsomepeace's picture

Do you have time to get this in front of a judge? I'd be getting the CO changed. A judge wouldn't like her refusing to let them go because she doesn't get to go on his time. Just threatening to file a motion for a change from "permission" to " inform the other parent in writing" may get her to give her permission.

She's only doing this because she gets away with it, put her in her place.

Willow2010's picture

Poor kids!!!How old are they. Did you know that BM was going to say no to you taking them out of state before you bought the tickets?

stepmom22boys's picture

They are 11 and 13.

When DH let her know that we were taking them to FL for spring break, she gave her permission. When she realized that we would not give into her demands, she changed her mind. She thought she could bully us and get her way.

stepmom22boys's picture

We didn't. When DH first told her about the trip, she said yes. She changed her mind when she realized that we would not play her silly little games. Wink

purpledaisies's picture

I would take her to court as well weather they go or not that way you can make her pay for herself and her dh and his kids too. that is so messed up she needs to pay for this crap.

If they don;t go i'd still take her to court and make her pay for the non refundable tickets too and court and everything else you can she needs to learn that she can';t do this and hopefully next time they will get to go and she will back the crap off!

stepmom22boys's picture

DH has been wanting to revisit the verbiage of the decree for awhile. I am hoping this will be the nail in her coffin! He told me that he wasn't going to give her the usual $200 extra per month in CS until the airline tickets are paid off. I am sure that will push her over the edge.

We are just sick of her shit! She pulls this kind of stunt all.the.time.

Jsmom's picture

I would take her back to mediation...Also, I would be damned if I gave her anything on top of the CS that is required. Hell no...She is an ass for the way she is handling this. Serve her with notification of request to go back to mediation and that may shape her up. It works with BM here. She loses everytime and now settles before it gets that far...

Justwantsomepeace's picture

When she gave her "permission" was it in writing ( email/text/voicemail)? If you can prove you bought tickets in good faith because she said yes you could go after reimbursement, but I assume the goal is to be able to take the vacation though. At 11 and 13 you've got many more years of this BS. If you don't put your foot down now, it will only get worse.

What kind of psycho thinks she can co-op your vacation? Don't get steamrolled on this. We're custodial, but every time psycho BM tries to pull her crap, we file a motion to modify or for contempt (BTW we follow the CO to the letter we are not trying to screw her). After a few years of this, we almost never end up in front of a judge, it gets resolved before it gets to that point.

In true Rags fashion - nail her ass to the wall.

stepmom22boys's picture

She gave and took away her 'permission' over email. She is going to reimburse DH and SSs plane tickets (even though she doesn't know it yet). DH is not going to give her the extra $200 per month that she has been getting until everything is paid off.