Step Talk

When I read the title, I was expecting you to say your 4-year-old SS!

My BD just turned 6 and she went through a phase where she REALLY wanted to see DH's package. She kept walking in when he was in the bathroom, trying to peak when he was changing, ect.
My dh has an awesome sense of humor and he actually made a big joke about it saying he'd be embarassed for my daughter to see his package saying that she'd be like, 'um, so where is it?' (I've told him how well endowed her dad is).

Anyway, I would be so completely weirded out by a 16-year-old male trying see me naked! what a pervert! He is old enough to know that he is being completey innapropriate. Can you call DH and let him know whats going on?

Including your DH, can you also talk with BM, SS's uncles, aunts, grand parents, teachers or coaches to help you set a huge boundary. That's really icky. I too thought you were going to say he was three or four years old. At that age it could be considered aggression and/or harassment.

I am a very private person and that would totally tick me off. I would ground his butt.

"Better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid than to open it and remove all doubt"

That really creeps me out. I thought for sure you were going to say your 4yr old ss or somthing close. Especially that he lookks under doors?!? WTF? Does he live with you full time?

here is a thought... does your deployed DH have any close male friends that are still around?? Tell them the situation and see if that person would be willing to talk to your ss and tell him how inappropriate it is.

I would not contact your DH and let him know.. he already has too much on his mind as it is. HOWEVER, my dh is in the CG and when he is deployed or out to sea, there is an Ombudsman that is made available to the family members to contact and try to get some help (I know because I was it for my DH's last billet) That person might have some insight on how to get help from the military and such.. be it the pastor comes out and speaks to him, or they get the kids some counseling.

Two Factors to Consider, Is it Only You and Your Neice, and if it is, Why? I'd say the kid definitely needs Counseling. All Boys gop through a Voyeuristic phase, but this sounds pretty extreme.

Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

wow, you are a lot nicer than me!! I would have physically hurt that kid! Holy cow Im enraged and its not even me!! I think because I'm also a private person as well. I would seriously think about sending him somewhere else to live. That is dangerous and its sick. He needs help.

"Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."
-Joshua J. Marine

I was just thinking.... mabe something that would work and be quite effective.. you should wait for him to look under the door again and make sure you are right next to the door also, when he pulls this again.. spray mace in his eyes!!!! THATS WOULD DO. HE DESERVES IT. PERVERT.

"Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."
-Joshua J. Marine

Mace would be an Assault Charge, Cheap Perfume/body splash would be "Accidental"
Get something with a relatively wide mouth so You can fling a larger quantity that will splash and get him good. It will stink up Your room for a few days, but...

Steve

Kids are the Best and Worst Things We can do to Ourselves. When We have nothing else worth living for, We'll go on, for Them, but Oh How We Miss Our Freedom...LOL

Wow,
He would be sleeping in the yard, in a tent, with a can of beans and a spork if that was my SS. Not to mention I'd be sleeping with one eye open. I agree with Frusterated. Get someone to talk to that kid before he ends up doing something worse.

"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman

maybe he is a randy teenager needing something extra...how about set him up on a date with someone. Or do the whole respect talk.

As the BM of a 16 year old boy, this is my take from experience. This is totally normal behavior. He is curious and that is normal. Not to say it is okay. My BF even walked in on BS with his hand down his jeans. Now he understands why we knock first! LOL Anyway, my advise would be to get him a magazine. My son started with MAXUM - ladies are dressed buy hardly when he was about 13 or 14. Then I got him, at his request, the Victoria's Secret catalog. Must be a big item for teenage boys - some of his friends have them too. I know he swiped a playboy from one of his buddies step fathers. They both took some. I would think it would be better to provide him with an outlet for his need to see a woman naked. My son has posters of scantally clad woman on his walls, so did my brothers at this age. It is okay and normal.

I would also have a little chat with him about respecting woman and let him know if he has any questions, he can come to you, or you will help him find someone who can answer his questions. My own son text messaged me the very bad spelling of a sex act word. He did not now what is was and wanted to know. He was embarrassed but he got over it and was disappointed with what is actually was.

In a lighter note, I think it would be more creepy if he was trying to see his own mother or sister naked. In his own little teenage boy way, he probably thinks you and your niece are good looking.

maybe then, he will loose interest or just be too damn tired to be a little perv !!!!!!!! 16 Get a Job !!!!!!!!!

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!

a stepson trying to see you naked is normal? i think not! its not normal when this 16yr old ss is trying like crazy to see this woman naked. brenda, you're scared of this kid? call an officer, let that kid be scared of the officer when he explains what can happen to the ss if he keeps trying to do this. it's not natural, it's sick. have someone show that kid what will happen when he invades personal private space when not invited. don't let this kid scare you brenda, no matter how tough or strong or big he may be. use the police to put him back in his place because his behavior is unacceptable when you can't even be comfortable in our own home, your own room. if some guy was peeking in your windows to see you naked and wouldn't stop, what would you do....call the police. ss or not, the same thing needs to happen because if you let him continue this, what's next...an ss that forces himself onto you? an ss that think its ok to force you into sexual acts (because you never stopped him before so why would you stop him now)? he's old enough to know what he's doing and know that what he is doing is wrong and highly inappropriate.

It's hard to say what's right. I'm sure Brenda feels pretty icky about the whole deal, but I have to also agree with Smurfy that teen boys do dumb things. I have two teen ss's now and they're going through the whole randy little goat phase. Its kinda cute...brings back memories of boys in school snapping bras and sneaking peeks. I'm not saying it's cool, because as a recipient of a snap and peek, it's way not cool...but i understand its normal and how guys behave. BUT, Brenda is troubled by how her ss is behaving and it may be more than usual boy stuff. If he's behaving this way and Brenda is upset, she could call in an outside male influence to talk to him and let him know it's not ok to be a peeper. And maybe Smurfy is right, some nekked women calendars or mags would be a better outlet for his hormones. But honestly, only Brenda can judge the seriousness of this situation, and if she's feeling that upset,she should seek outside assistance to deal with ss.
This might be a bit of a delicate situation. This kid may just need some better male guidance or he may be on a really bad road.
I'd take Frustated's advice and get someone else's opinion of the situation and go from there.