So, in the midst of my many other dilemmas, I have another strange situation. My 11yo SD still wants to always sit on her dad's lap. She won't sit beside him, literally right on his lap and straight on top of him. She gets upset and cries or mopes if either one of us tell her she's too old for that. My husband does tell her to move since it makes me very uncomfortable to see her wiggling her butt on his lap, but he doesn't personally see the big deal.
Does anyone know what the age is too old or where to find resources to help? I have looked a few places, but no such luck. Am I wrong here? I know my SD is mad at me because she knows I don't like it. Same with sleeping with him. She tries to get him to lie with her or her to sleep next to him. Is she way too old, or is that me?
***Hi, and thank you for your opinions and comments. I just have a feeling that my SD is a very physical and sexual girl. I should explain more, but I didn't want to write a five paragraph long blog. I think my SD does these things to "take my place" and not just to be sweet. She doesn't do it when I'm not around from what I'm told. She only wants to do it when I'm in the room. She will do it when he and I are cuddling on the couch, so of course, I can't cuddle with him anymore. Plus, she wiggles directly on his "areas" and will touch his butt sometimes, try to touch him beneath his clothes because she says she likes his skin, give him long kisses on the lips (that makes even him feel uncomfortable), and he sleeps without clothing, so that is uncomfortable for me to have her spooning her naked dad. I get a strange vibe about it. Does that change it, or do you still think I'm just feeling different than you? Thank you for your input. I would appreciate more!