Step Talk

SD11 and two Bkids 18 & 16.

All I can say is: "some days your the dog and other days your the fire hydrant".

~Evil

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius

We have been married 1, and together total of 4 years.. And I am plugging away at it.. Loving my husband!!!!
Funny, I never had and still see my ex stepson who is 17 and we still laugh and talk, never had issues with him. Even Ex BF kids loved me. Funny how I end up marrying a man who's well kids hated me, now my SS really loves me, SD 16 HATES me, and I am done trying to win her. What it is, is what it is..

Happy
"live life to its fullest everyday"

DH and I have been together for quite a while. I became a SM at the ripe age of 20. We have 2 bio sons, 2&6. My SS is 11. Due to parental alienation we have not seen or heard from him since March. I just found out that while BB is moving into a nice highrise condo, SS is going to stay living with the evil man-hating GM. Ain't step-parent life grand?

"All that we are is a result of what we have thought."- Buddha

I have a BD12, SD11 and BS6. It's hard when there are rules at one house (ours) and not at the other (BM's). I'm sure we are all going to make it through this. My BD12's dad had a son from his first marriage (I was the 2nd) and we got along beautifully so I'm having a hard time dealing with/figuring out what went wrong with this step situation. Being a SM is the HARDEST job I've ever had...hands down. It can also be one of the most rewarding at times too. sigh
Ah the roller coaster of emotions.....

but my GOD, sometimes it feels like 30.

~THE EXERCISE THAT REALLY CHANGES YOUR LIFE IS WALKING DOWN THE AISLE~

Officially is it 13 months (the total time she has been under my roof)? 2 years? (The time she has been under my roof plus the time we have been married, even when she wasn't here) 4 months? (the time she has been under my roof THIS TIME), 1 year and 3(the time we have been married only)? Or 4 years (the time my husband and I have known each other)

In some ways, I feel like it is only the time she has been living with us - because there was NO contact between us when she lived with her biomom. (She would talk with DH, but not with me)

Compared with you folks, I just can't believe it, you make me feel like there is hope. I'm only married a year and 3 mo. My SD is 19, preggo, and just moved back in with us in April. Before that, she lived with her BM. SD lived with me and DH for 9 months (before we got married) her senior year. We met, he had custody, they moved in. She moved out to live with BM after graduating, (we got married while she was away, but she was in the wedding) and now is back, 2 years later. For some reason - it was easier when she was younger and we weren't married! I went from single, never been married, no kids to step mom with step granddaughter on the way in less than 18 months. I am feeling slightly confused and a little betrayed. You guys give me hope. Thanks (but how long is that, officially?)

SS just turned 4 on Monday. He really truly is a pleasure...He loves his Feeta (don't ask how that name came about, more because I am not really sure other than he couldn't say my name when he was , that's how it came out I guess, and it just stuck) BM is 28 but acts 13... I just turned 29 on Wednesday and DH is 30.

My girls are 4 (July 15th) and 5. Our kids have blended VERY well. They don't remember life without each other, and I love it this way. No complaints other than BM is an idiot. DH used to "favor" ss, for about a year we had the "you have to treat them equally" argument, but the longer we are together, the more that fades into the distance, thank GOODNESS.

I've been a parent for nine years, six months and 38 days. I have been a stepparent for five years, seven months and ten days. My children are: SD15, SD14, SS12, BS9 and BD4. SD14 and SS12 are both exceptional children. The girl is mildly mentally handicapped with a speech problem and ADHD. The boy has - where to begin?! - ADHD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, is moderately mentally retarded, will be a burden on his poor mother forever, etc. And since I'm throwing out acronyms, I have an "emotionally unstable" husband, per his therapist, who has PTSD. Oh, yeah, and the skids' mom can be a real B.I.T.C.H. That about covers it.

And yes, sometimes I DO count the days. Crucify me.

~ Anne ~

"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)

I've been a step mom for what feels like a billion years, but in reality, just 2 months shy of ten years.

I just passed the year mark...My skids are 20, 15, 16...Bio 12.
I feel more like a pal than a stepmom to them....No problems with the kids at all except I don't see them enough. I really like them.

But who's counting...

StepMom

Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...

Would have been 8 years next month. I am attempting to try to keep it as a would have. God give me stregnth

but they were with us only intermittently, enough to cause trouble and then leave.

Bio mom to a 9Y/O son of ours and one on the way, proud Stepmom to 14 Y/O daughter(no I wasn't always so happy) and custodial parent of SD since 2006.I started dating DH a few months after he left BM(Messy, bumpy relationship from what I was told) after 6 years of on and off and off again.I was fresh out of my own messy relationship and we weren't supposed to be serious but then somehow serious got us.

Its been far from a dream deal but we've made it work pretty well most times and I really don't think of SD as anything but our girl(All of her parents for better or worse) and have been fortunate that SD is well adjusted after all she has seen and been through.

SD doesn't see either of her parents other children as any different than her and that has made it alot easier(BM tried to stir that pot) and says we(she and I) are the closest of all 4 parents but still realizes I am a parent too. I feel very blessed with her.

I am bio mum to two young adults (17 boy & 18 girl) and I have been part time step parenting for three years now (an 8yr old girl and 11 yr old boy). It is not easy. I am about to make it all 'official' as I am marrying their father in September.

His EW is nuts and wont get on with her own life and I am still having some problems with his relationship to his ex family (not his EW).

WE ARE ALL VERY BRAVE TO TAKE ON OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS.

Just keep smiling......................

Adult StepD in the house, two more adult skids out of the house. All nearly my age... Tolerate me as "dad's wife" for ten years; when heard that I want a child of my own, stated - "but this is not THAT kind of a marriage" - that was two years ago, I am still pondering!
SD29 in the house for 1.5 years, and now for another round. What is wrong with her? Nothing really, except that she is in debt and feels entitled for help; is immature and needy; makes up accidents, chases after boyfriends, makes up serios illnesses, staged a suicide, thinks there a stalker after her, etc. I am "allowed" to help her, house her, buy things, cover up bills, but I am not in any position of authority, as "just dad's wife".

The step parenting thing as I was with BF for 8 years and only made it to engagment. BM fills SD's head with all sorts of crap that if I do stick around, I am sure my step parenting experience will not be a pleasant one with SD not liking me. The girl has been cold to me for 8 years and she is 11. She is a chip off her mother's block.

Im 23, my fiance is 29, SS is 4 years old...Weve been together since his son was 2...BM is civil but is not the smartest woman...Goes from guys house to guys house and just had a baby.. SS lives with my fiance full time after BM was charged with Neglect back in August 06'..Things have defenitly changed since we got together but it doesnt bother me much..i live for change... my fiance on the other hand cannot handle change and is a total stress case..Hes worried that SS will get jealous when i move in or that i will make him put his SS last which will NEVER be the case..I love SS..Still trying to adjust to the whole SM thing..living and learning each and every day...

well i have been with my hubby for just over 5 years but only married for 2 years.
i became a step parent at 19years old and didn't have my own til 20. i have a step daughter 6yrs and 2 biological sons 2 and 4. there was a time that my sd and i were insepertable but that has long since died off thanks to bm being insane.*sigh*

I'm 27 with SS14, SD13 & SS8 (two BMs involved) with my first bio baby on the way in November. It's been the 4 longest years of my life. Oh yeah, they all three live with us. The two youngest have lived with us since before we were married and the oldest came 3 years ago.
Sometimes I feel like such an idiot for even getting married to begin with (I was only 23) and an even bigger idiot for sticking with it.

almost didn't make it twice. Now we are back on track again and hopefully things will stay that way. Ss12 is pretty normal, except for that little thing of him having no respect for his bm and the two of them constantly going at it. Sd9 is babyied beyond belief and is now afraid of everything, plus has ADD and short term memory issues from her problems at birth(liver transplant). Bm is a psycho biaytch from hell who needs a beat down. I never thought I would be the only sane person and practical one in the family...
May the force be with you..

Got married quickly after meeting my spouse and blended my 2 girls (now 4 & 5) with his 2 girls (7 & 9)

My ex is a deadbeat, his is psychotic but has the kids half the time so it's rubbing off into my life in a big way. Recently hit a wall of frustration that this isn't getting any easier any time soon and am SO thankful I found this forum to vent and commiserate!