OH MY GOSH....so of course having FSD the last couple days around has been trying of course...as usual she displays selfish behavior w/my son-refuses to share then insists he shares with her.
Yesterday I had a stressful day...went out shopping w/my boys for a few hours-then came home, left them w/the bf and took SD out shopping again -I had a couple things to get and she had some gift cards from her bday she wanted to get some outfits with-that's cool-figured it be a nice girl bonding time.
Overally the outing went ok. Anyway-she just seemed in an "off" mood, pouty, almost like PMS.
Well-at one of the stores she chooses a new wallet, so she's transfering stuff from her old wallet to the new one. The old wallet is one her mom very recently gave her because she got a new one...it was the first time I saw her w/this wallet (her moms). Anyway-the SD says oh..but I can't fit my pictures in the new wallet...and she's holding the little pouch, you know the transparent holders kind-but it's scaled so it won't fit. I don't think she purposely was trying to show me but it was out-and I said you know...look if you had the one that is stacked you can fit it, I'm trying to describe it but catch a glimpse of her w/both her parents in a picture when she was about 4 or 5.
So I just say, this is a nice picture! She then says yeah I guess we're sitting in traffic we can look at them. SO I do-there is WEDDING picture of her mom/dad. There is a PROM picture of her mom/dad, and then the picture with the three of them-then a few other baby pictures of her and her moms friends kids. So obviously this was being carried around in her moms wallet all this time.
WHO carries pictures of your prom (dating) and wedding and family pictures of your EX when you've been divorced 4-5 years...I mean really!!! And THEN to give them to your daughter as part of the wallet?! WTF? Who DOES that!
No wonger the girl seemed upset and conflicted the whole day! I mentioned it to my bf and he said-oh yeah...she showed them to me earlier this morning also and I was shocked she had them.
I KNOW this was a passive-agressive move from the BM knowing she's carrying the wallet and doing shopping w/us this week so there was a good chance the pics would be seen. What a freak. Somehow I was able to muster out...wow, these are nice pictures...your dad looked so young, so handsome. But inside I was like wtf?
Don't you think this sends the girl conflicting messages about their relationship?? I mean I know mom is messed up to carry them around this long but then give it to her D-right around the Holidays..as we're starting to bond and form our families together. WTF EVER!
OH YEAH-and remember she had surgery not long ago..it was semi serious but why do you go and tell your D...I could have died. If they caught it one day later I would have died just like your greatgrandma did ...WHAT?? I told SD she was too young to worry about that kind of stuff and her mom was fine and not to worry.
But she says..well I know-I was just worried because she could have died the day before or of my birthday. Stupid friggin idiot. WHY would you tell your child that???