Hey everyone! I was just going through reading some blogs before I decided to go to bed. Never in my life had I imagined that BM's where such drama queens that have no life. I think that they spend every second of their time thinking of what they could possibly do next to irritate everyone else in the world! My blood boils when I have to come face to face with this idiotic person because all that comes out of her mouth is literally, "BLAH, BLAH, BLAH" I just want to slap the crap out of her and say, "are you serious" My fiance's BM had the nerve to tell me that my SS throws fits and doens't know how to act because of ME! She said that the only reason my fiance took her to court to get custody of SS was because I was so needy and had to be taken out on the town every other weekend. Must I say, that is all a bunch of bull! The reason court was even brought up was becuase she always threatened my fiance about putting him on child support because her parents were angry at her every time my SS went to their house because they had to spend groceries on him?????!!!! What the hell then move the hell out and be a grown up then right?? Anyway, how the hell was I going to let him pay child support when SS has been with him since he was born while his real mom was too busy being a floozy! Then one day she has the nerve to call me and ask me if I can talk to my fiance to see if he could give her an allowance until her new "BABY DADDY" gets out of jail. My jaw dropped. This BITCH had the nerve. My fiance and I laughed til we turned blue because she didn't realize how STUPID she made herself sound. Amazing what comes out of these females mouths! Sorry everyone I just had to vent!
Try not to stress...
I know that this is the understatement of the century. My husband's ex used to criticize me about my interactions with her kids (we raised them full time and she critiqued from a long distance!). You know all that she did was cause distance to happen between me and her kids because as the drama occurred, I just disengaged more and more. They are nice enough kids now but I just don't care about them, about what they do, about any of it. One day my heart just said no more...don't care...and I just cut them emotionally out of my life. Now I just feel indifferent. It is nice...no drama impacts me anymore. It would have been nice to have a different relationship with them: they would like that. But there comes a time when you just gotta protect you!
No drama
I love my SS as if he were my own, but sometimes I do wish I didn't just so I could ignor the drama. Being childless, when I got divorced, knowing most men my age (35 at the time) would probably have kids, I had to decide ... kid or no kid with the man? So, I decided I would be able to handle the man who doesn't have custody of his kid. But there are times I regret it. There are times I wish he wasn't here. But this time, since it's been a very irregular past 4 weeks (only seen SS for 4 days in 4 weeks) I'm actually looking forward to his 10-day visit.
On to the stupid things BMs say. DH had back surgery on June 5th. On June 12th we had to go to ER because of excessive pain and swelling. June 15th we were supposed to have SS for the weekend. DH was on 4 different narcotics, and sleeping 15 hours per day. So, we decided it wouldn't be fair to SS and canceled the visit - we warned BM this may happen when we told her the surgery date. Explained the meds, ect. We asked for make up time from the 19th through the 22nd so she wouldn't lose a weekend with SS - we were trying to be nice (don't do that, it doesn't work). She wrote back and said "If you were as 'drugged to a stupor' as you say you were this past weekend, I don't think you will be able to take care of SS and am not going to give you make up time. It's against my better judgment, but I'll let you have him on Wednesday." Okay, so Tuesday to Wednesday - what's the difference. She was so concerned about him being "drugged to a stupor" that she wouldn't give make up time, but was willing to give ONE SPECIFIC DAY (overnight mind you). We wrote her back, after we got SS, and told her she was full of shit, that she probably had something else to do that night, needed to give us the right to first refusal, and used the guise of a make up day to give us ONE DAY!! She was so concerned about DH being "drugged to a stupor" that she didn't even think to ask if he was still on all that medicaiton, and if so who would be picking SS up because she woudln't want him driving on all those meds ... NOPE!!!! I still don't think she realizes how dumb she looked. Hopefully the court will point that out to her. LOL
~ Katrina
Uhhhmmm yep...
De inimico non loquaris sed cogities.
They are just completley stupid.
I can't say that mine is
I can't say that mine is stupid. She's actually pretty smart in some ways. She's just VERY self-centered. She only cares about how she, personally, is impacted, not how the kids, us or anyone else in the world is impacted. I don't think it's even that she does it on purpose, she just has no concept of any reality that exists outside her own head.
~ Anne ~
"Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other." -Walter Elliot
She must be the woman I have
She must be the woman I have to deal with. This woman has no concept of other people, their personal space or time, or how her actions affect everyone else, including her kids. She IS an idiot, because she drove my wonderful husband away from her!
mine is clueless
The dumbest thing I think I've ever heard her say is the first summer after DH and I got married. I was overwhelmed with being a stepmom and a second wife and having a full-time job; at the time all five kids lived with us. I insisted that BM take the skids for her month in June. This is the BM who doesn't pay a dime in child support or even her half of medical/dental. She wanted to know how much of HER daycare bill we were required to pay in order for her to have the skids in June. I said, none. She asked, but doesn't the divorce decree say that DH HAS to pay part of that? I deadpanned, "No, cause he pays 100% of the other eleven months of the year." She had some of her druggy, ex-alkie friends watch the kids instead, so needless to say that was the last summer she's ever had them for her alloted month.
I remain, the world's most evil stepmom; ask anyone.
well, mine is brain-dead!
BM put her profile on match.com and put about 20 pictures of her twin 11 year old daughters on it then had the nerve to tell him that men have commented to her how "hot" they are and she thinks it's "cute."!!!!
She's lost her mind!
TWISTED!
Ours got mad when DH told her to take SS's pictures off of her myspace. He doesn't want his son's pictures floating around the internet on a NON secure site. Too many wierdo's out there. (as I have a picture of him on this site, but hey... it's microscopic and I am in it... different crowd here than who visits her page anyways).
Daddys Gurl-
Life is as sweet as you sweeten it.
They're not all stupid
Some are actually smart, sophisticated ladies. Unfortunately for us, ours aren't, or we wouldn't be here.
And then on the other hand, some are psycho, like my SS's BM
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I honestly think my dh's ex
I honestly think my dh's ex is mentally retarded. Just slightly so, but still....
I love it that she is so dumb. It's hilarious.
At least she communicates with you!
My ss bio mom refuses to be in his life since he was 3 years old! I don't know why?? He is such a wonderful human being! She is missing out on so much. She doesn't see him, call him, send letters nothing and she went on to have a third kid without even letting him now. She has 3 kids with 3 different fathers. My ss is now 15 years old. He hardly asks for her anymore. I got in contact with his sister who is now 21 and I figured she could have a relationship with him if she wanted and yet she refuses to as well. Well she doesn't refuse she wants to come and pick him up with no strings attached. I told her we are very protective parents and we don't know you that well. Her thing was I am his sister and that should be good enough. It isn't not for us!! No one on his Bio mom's side of the family calls him either it's as if he doesnt' exist. Does anyone have any suggestions?? I've tried to make friends with those family members through my space and they deny my friend requests! What did I do?? Take care and love a kid that wasn't even mine! What is up with these people. I am really starting to think that maybe I am the bad person. I figure she must have told her family members and friends a horrible lie about me but I can't get it out of anyone. All I know is that I became a bio mom myself seven years ago and I can't even imagine anyone else raising her! I didn't understand before I had my own child and I don't understand it now.
Why are people like that??
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