Step Talk

That really stinks! It would have been nice to be able to make plans for ss for the time when he is with you. I feel your pain! We used to be subjected to that very thing. However, we got the schedule modified and now it says that she gets ss for the first two weeks in June and the last two weeks of July. We plan around that. It is soooo much nicer that way.

Hang in there.

Dawn

Tell her that won't be good for you, and you won't be able to have him during your work time. Why would you let her dictate your schedule any how?

Our decree states that BM gets them in June, and that any changes to that must be made by April. Of course, my skids live with their dad and I, so that pertains to the NCP, their mom. She's dirt poor, so she never takes them at all, period, other than alternating weekends and once a week; there is no extended summer visitation for her because she says she can't afford it. So ladies, it could be worse: You might be stuck like me with never a break longer than a weekend when you can have some time to yourself.

You could be stuck with never getting any extended time WITH the child because the BM denies visits and refuses to even discuss the IDEA of anything beyond the EOW schedule. Our hearts are broken year after year when BM keeps SD away for every holiday, every school vacation, every special occasion. It's just awful. She misses out on so much with us and we miss her dearly.

P.S. I am NOT in any way minimizing what you guys are going through, because I know that's tough too! I know you need a break from raising someone else's children. I know it's really shitty to be *told* last minute when you'll be seeing the skids with no discussion and mutual agreement and then you have to scramble to make arrangements for their care. It just sucks either way!