On my last post, I detailed a conversation that transpired between dh and bm about modifying cs and giving her the tax exemptions (really important to her). When my dh told her it was doable, she instantly volunteered my dh's money for the cost of attorney's fees.
Meanwhile, nothing else has transpired between dh and bm to violate her respect, therefore she is mad out of the blue. So I called up my sil the other day to ask her if she repeated my conversation with sil about bm to bm since they are close friends. She said no she did not, and then proceeded to tell me what bm is saying about dh...
Bm is telling everyone she is really upset with my dh and wants to permanently create complete alienation between dh and ss b/c she is mad. Why you ask? She is mad b/c she claims that my dh is trying to pin her for 100% of the attorney's fees to modify cs so that my dh won't pay her cs, and she will receive tax exemptions every year. I had to laugh...but I did set the record straight with sil, and that after she tried to say dh could pay for the attorney, he then said they could split the costs. My dh has never pinned her for 100% of costs for anything...I did repeat Little Jo's comment (thank you btw)..."bm would makes such a great defense attorney b/c she turns everything around to make dh look like the jerk, and she of course is always a victim." Sil could not defend her friend...
Detective Candice has figured out that bm is talking to ex-bf, who just happened to buy a boat shortly after she moved out, she is probably contemplating on wanting to move back in with her ex-bf, but he won't take her with ss full time. My dh told her the night that she took ss back..."In a couple of months when you can't handle ss, don't call me..." and she of course said "fine." My dh told her numerous times..."you can have ss back, but if you take him back, you are keeping him forever." Now that moving out has blown up in her face, she is pist, it of course is dh's fault, and now she is pist we have set boundaries and won't allow her to treat out house like a half-way house.
She never makes decisions based on what is in the best interests of her children, it's all about what's convenient for her...always, and it of course is everyone else's fault....
It's sad, but I can't help but laughing at what an idiot she is...
Keep Laughing
Some of these BMs are such twisted excuses for a human being, let alone a parent. I admit, you are in a tough spot with this SIL that is her friend. That's just mucking things up.
Actually, that line came from my Father. When I was about 5 years old. I must have been up his ass about wanting something. He just looked down at me and said, "you would make a great defense attorney". Of course I had no idea what he was talking about. But, I always remembered it.
I'm glad I grew up not to be like these bitchy BMs.
Jo
"Why, if Juan Valdez had our beans, he would have shot his donkey and burned down the mountain." Jessica - Soap
She is so twisted!!
I could not sleep living my life like this! She must only have coal for a heart b/c if she had any love for her kids, she wouldn't put them through this.
I am going to keep laughing. Part of me is really sad for the 13 year old that has to live with her, but the other part of me is laughing at what a bullshit liar she is, and how people just eat up her lies. If she put this much energy into being a good/successful person, she would be on top of the world! But no, instead she works on manipulating everyone all the time...
Thanks for the support!
Candice
Something I often ponder...
I can't imagine how miserable it must feel to have to live your life shrouded in lies in order to make yourself look like a worthwhile person to other people. It must be so heartbreaking to not be able to tell the truth about yourself because lies sound better. I would hate to think the psychological problems these women are perpetuating within themselves every time they falsify their lives in order to make them look better and us to look worse. Their lies are just constant reminders to themselves (and everyone else) of how jealous and insecure they are. How much must that suck!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
I couldn't have said it better myself!
Thanks Nymh! I'm going to print that comment and remind myself every time someone reports what bm is saying next. I think you are totally right, people like her are miserable, and it must feel absolutely terrible to know a lie is better than what you really have going on.
Thanks again,
Candice
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