Does anybody else feel like a stranger in their own house when Skids are there?Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 07/27/2010 - 10:17am
this is my first post, but i have been reading alot of posts over the past week or so and can't believe how many people seem to feel the same way I do... I thought I was the only one! My husband has 2 Skids SS11 and SD12. They are very nice kids and I got along with them great when my husband and I first were togetehr (we've been together for 3 years now) but lately, when the Skids are there (especially together.. they have 2 different BM's) they will say hi, but then basically ignore me.. for instance if I am outside they are inside, If I am inside they are outside. My husband used to tell me when we were going to have them (there is no visitation.. they just call when they want to come over or when BM needs a babysitter) but the last couple of times, I get home from work and they are just there... I'm thinking.. didn't you think to mention to me that the kids were coming?? I know it is their house too, but I think it would be common courtesy to let me know so that I don't make plans or so I CAN make plans NOT to be there! both of their BMs are PITAs.. always wanting something or having some drama so I feel like I can't say anything to my hubby because i know that he will say something to the Skids about why they are not talking to me and they will run and tell BM's and then they will cause drama and I can't deal with that! I just want to be happy and I have gotten so if I do know they are coming I get depressed and try to come up with things to do, people to see, places to go so I don't have to be there feeling like a stranger in my own house. when they are not there I am happy as can be (myhubby and I have a 7 month old Son) the kids seem to like him (but not to the extent that they really seem to care one way or the other whether his is there or not) any of you seasoned veterans have any advice or like experiences? I love my hubby to death, but just don't know what to do... I DO know that I can't keep harboring this anger inside, because it is making me sick and sad.