Step Talk

Wow....I'm the only one so far whose step child has a key! She is Daddy's little princess and I have little say. When he was married to her mother..he & the daughter..went everywhere together..almost like ..they were the couple and the wife was the tag along for the times she did join them.

I thought it was because their marriage had deteriorated and they no longer wanted to spend time together...

After 5 years together with this man..I sometimes wonder..which came first..
I think the 1st wife, (although a capital b***h) may have been driven away....
The husband and child were the couple..
She was the outsider....

I had a private discussion with him, (as two people who share intimate thoughts & feelings), about my feelings/hurts etc when it came to his older child and her inability to accept me...

The next morning he runs to the younger daughter...blabs our private conversation to her...

The one person who will 100% run back to her older sister...
Who will then, with 75% certainty run back to the nasty, spiteful, ex...

Although he knows, the older sister is "just like her mother".. he just doesn't seem to get how all these dynamics have affected him..us

Nothing wrong with being close to your children....
They grow up..get married..move out..sometimes move away...

Don't be stupid...don't undermine .. your adult relationsips & happines..

He's like a stupid dog..who gets kicked..and runs back with a wagging tail..for more when it comes to his 2 children.

He openly detests his ex for many of her personality traits...she is a royal self absorbed, b***h. I've heard many many stories, from many many people..and I've seen her in action a few times time..she will manipulate,lie, cheat, steal, crocodile tears, threaten..whatever..to get whatever she wants any way she can....(not unlike a spoiled child)

The daughters are not that bad...but there is a touch of manipulation,tantrums,mean girl symdrome, arrogant entitlement or special status...I can see.

He would get annoyed with me for even suggesting..the younger one (20 ish) pick up after herself..when she lived with us.. where ever she sat..in the house..there would be dirty dishes..wrappers, cloths, etc ..a trail you could follow.

The other day she was over for supper.. I had freshly folded laundry on the loveseat downstairs.. she decided to sit there and just threw the clothes that i had just put on hangers..on the floor..when she was done "Sitting on her ass" (instead of helping with supper, etc) ... she just up and walked away to be served her meal..

I understand he & his first wife fought about..similar issues when it came to her... (but I'm told it was because the ex had unreasonable expectations of her)

It's sad....
They are the product of what he helped make them..and he can't see it.
but I digress....Truthfully...I really don't mind her having a key.. She wouldn't march her mother through my house or anything like that. She does know her mother is a bit of a wing nut.

I know a second wife who told me her stepchildren used to do that while she was at work..so the ex could rummage through..through their personal belongings/papers etc. She kicked them out of her home...took the keys!!

My younger step child does have hint of respect for us, enough to not to do that..at least..